Summary: Adultery is
violation of the trust between a husband and wife and
when one partner deliberately breaks that trust the
other partner has to watch out for his own interest
because when a woman has chosen to cheat, she can do
anything else to hurt him too. Read below the case
of a hopeless romantic man in love with his wife even
though they are in the midst of a divorce.
Roger
writes, "My
wife of 20 years recently confessed to me that
she has repeatedly cheated on me. We have
talked about what happened and she said that she
still wanted to see if she had
what it took to pick up a man. While I was
devastated with what she did, because I loved
her so much, I was hoping that we could
still be married as long as she was sorry
for what she did. I cannot imagine living
without her because I have not only loved her
the entire time but also been
faithful the whole
time. I have now been served with
divorce
papers and I just want this over with. We are
still talking and a lot of the issues are
arising out of her past relationships which she
is now understanding that she cannot continue
the destructive lifestyle that she has been on.
I am feeling better the more we talk. As soon as
I can I will be moving to another city to
get my
fresh start and put all this behind me. I still
love her and always will and want to
keep her as
a friend. What do you think?"
I guess
at this point, the focus has to be on
healing for you
because you are the victim here. That is why I am not
sure how helpful it will be for you to talk too much
with her or
keep her as a friend after the divorce (it
is nice to be civil and still be able to greet each
other warmly if you run into each other by chance but
friendships are complicated and I do not see the need if
you do not have kids together).
