|
Henrietta
writes, "I am fully convinced that my
husband does not love me and my question is
how
can I make him love me. I am tired of being this
wife that is not loved by her own husband when she
is doing everything right. My
husband
hardly ever spends time with me or our son and when
I ask him, he always has an excuse that he is too busy
at work. He always comes home very late and then we do
not even
share a bed any more because he complains that he
does not want to be bothered in the night if our son
wakes up. I have learned recently that he
divorced his first wife because she demanded that he
treat her with respect. I want him to know that I'm
different, I want him to feel that he is the man, and he
has the control in the house, but I would also like
to be given the respect that I deserve as his wife. I
feel so empty inside and realize that I was probably
stupid to marry this guy. What can I do now?"
Men who mistreated devoted wives are
exploiters
I feel your pain and suffering. What
can be worse for a
sweet woman like you than to realize that after
giving her husband everything, he still does not love
her?
My advice to you will be that even though you
sleep in a
separate room (though, I encourage you to
put the
baby in the nursery and if you still do not have
peace of mind, buy one of those
remote
baby monitors on which you can keep an eye on the
baby right from your bed), make sure that you always put
the baby to sleep first (read more tips on
time
management for busy moms) and then go and
spend some
time with your husband each night (and wear some
sexy nightwear while doing so). I hope that
you can chat a little bit and just hug/cuddle (I am also
hoping that he will be
motivated
to have sex with you) and you can come back to the
baby if it cries but in any event after spending a few
hours you can go and sleep separately. That way you will
still
spend quality time with him without his being
disturbed by the baby. I am also hoping that by doing
this you two can
have sex more regularly.
While it is impossible to
force
someone to love you, I am hoping that if you both
have more sex, he will feel closer to you (a lot of
men find love through sex) and would want to
spend more time with you. |
