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Brandon
writes, "I haven't really had a girlfriend, and also
have no clue
where to start off in
finding a relationship. I
tend to be really shy around anyone, especially if I
don't know them and if they are
girls. I never know how
to
start any kind of conversation even if I know the
person. I liked this one girl, but it seems like she
doesn't like me anymore as a friend, I think it was
because one of my
friends said something to her. Last
time we talked I said hi and she said it back, but I had
to say it first. We were in an
art gallery, it looked
like she was trying to avoid me the whole time she was
there. Everything seemed fine before my friend told her
something bad about me; now I don't even want to try to
do anything. I just want to know
how to find the right
girl, or someone who will like me for who I am, and who
I will like also. I have no clue what to do. Please
help."
First time for anything is hard,
but particularly so for finding a relationship
Trust me, you are not alone in feeling this way. Most
guys and girls feel pretty much the same
way if they have no
experience dating. Even those
guys who look so cool around girls have
a lot of issues dealing with their emotions. It is just that they
have
conquered some of their fears in dealing with girls
and so can you.
So here are some rules to remember and so many people
have found
success in dating with these simple tips and
so can you:
- Get ready for
rejection. It is
part of a man's life. If you are going to
go
anywhere with girls, you will need to
deal with
rejection like a man. In fact the more often you are
rejected, it says that you are trying hard and then
you will realize that sometimes it just works.
- Don't dwell too long on failures.
If a
girl rejects your advances, do not take it
personally. Just move on to the next. When you
go
shopping, do you buy everything that the
stores want
to sell you? Will you
date and marry any girl that
throws herself at you? No, you only
buy what you
really like and you will only
fall in love with that
girl that you really like. In this world, we are all
shopping for that perfect mate and it
is just logical to reject what you don't like.
- Don't try to
be someone you are
not. Yes, it is nice to acquire good habits or
change your
behavior to become better, but if you
hate
sports, you cannot fake that you
love them. If you are
not a great
story-teller, that is fine too. Trust
me, there are
girls for every type of a man, because
all girls are different and they
like all kinds of
guys. Yes, there are
shy girls that like
shy guys
and there are
outgoing girls that like shy men.
- My secret to
good conversation is
to make the girl the center of the world. Try to
know everything that you can about her and her life.
Talk to her about the things that she likes, and
believe me, she will love you. I am yet to meet a
woman who disliked talking about her.
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