|
Jason
writes, "I've
dated before, and well, most of the time it's
because I'm myself, or at least that's what they say.
But, the reason I ask is because, I have a
bad
luck when it comes to finding, keeping, and overall just
talking to a girl. It doesn't scare me when I just
walk up and
talk
to a girl. However, I have a hard time
keeping a conversation with the girl. I'm not what
you call that
socially correct person. I like and know topics that
don't interest many, women especially. I'm the
smart car
geek, and well, when someone asks me what kinda
car I
have, I guess I overload them. I'll say that, well, I
have a 1992 Mustang LX with a 302, which I do. But, it
just turns off girls. And I do
talk to girls often enough, but, I just
find
them as friends, I don't find any of them attractive
to me. I'm the guy that wants a
girl
that is beautiful, has
soft eyes, and that she loves cars. I should be able
to take her to Drag races, Drift competitions, or just a
car show, and she won't feel left out. Like, I could ask
her what her favorite part of the car is and she could
say the rims, or the paint, not just 'it's pretty.'
Thus, leads to the part where I have a hard time
finding a girl that is single, and
has some of the same interests. Cars are a big part
of my life, and I don't want to push it off, because I
can't
find that girl."
It is good to know what you want
but still be flexible
You are a
man who knows exactly what you want and there is
nothing wrong with that; except that you will have to
wait to
find that girl, unless you are willing to compromise
in the meantime. It appears to me that right now you are
not willing to compromise -- which by the way is
essential to
finding a
partner and being happy with her -- and considering
that you are so young, it is OK for the time being. I
know you are not asking for anything out of this world
but it is just that many
beautiful girls are not just that much into cars. So
for example, you could compromise on the car part right
now (and have those conversations only with people who
share that passion) and you will end up with a
beautiful girl and that will give you an opportunity
to
get comfortable around girls and
improve your social skills.
Women love men curious about them
It is important to
be yourself
at all times. I just hope that you understand that
it does not mean that you come across as insensitive to
to someone else who is also being herself. So if you
like to talk about cars and their parts, but the other
person does not, you can be still yourself and talk
about some of the things that they like. Ask them what
they like and talk about it. If you know nothing about
it (for example, if she likes
doll
making) ask questions and keep your mind open about
something new and different. That is
what
makes life interesting anyway.
How to have a great conversation?
The
art of
conversation is not easy and it takes a lot of time.
The best
conversationalist in the world that I know in the
world is my
Italian friend Marco. When he
talks to a girl (and she could be
fat
and
ugly), he makes her feel that she is the center of
the universe, the most important person for him at that
moment, and when the two are talking, the rest of the
world does not exist. He also asks lots of questions
(remember we all like to talk about ourselves but the
most successful people are those that like to talk about
others) and it does not matter if he has interest in
Gossip Girls or The Hills or making scrapbooks, he
wants to know everything abut the topics that the girl
likes. Trust me, he can
get any
girl that he wants. And that is the reason why you
often see
fat, short, ugly, losers with the hottest chicks --
these
guys have mastered the art of
making a
woman feel special.
The reason the girls think of you as
friend-material rather than as their romantic interest
is because most girls do not like nerds, particularly
those that are so narrow in their passion. The
ideal dude for a girl is just someone like them, one
who likes to
hang out with them in the mall or
go
shopping with them, and patiently listen to all the
stuff that they like to talk about. I know it will be a
big change for you, but trust me, if you want to
find a girlfriend, you will have to learn the see
the world from a girl's viewpoint. For almost 99% of
them, a car is merely a solution to get from place A to
B. As they grow older, maybe they dream about having a
nice car, but that is similar to dreaming of having that
latest designer bag or
shoes or
dresses or
earrings that they saw on
Jessica Simpson or
Heidi Montag or
Katie Price -- maybe they care about the car looking
good and being safe, but they rarely give a hoot about
what is under the hood or what makes the car work. |
