| Sally
writes, "I am 35, recently separated, and in the process
of
going through my divorce. I knew this guy from
Facebook
for a couple of years. We used to chat on and off
and became very close after I separated. He is 25, and
our
emotional bond is strong. He
understood me more than my
ex did. He has said
he loves
me, and will be there for me. I come from a
very conservative cultural background, and find it
difficult to fathom that a guy
10 years
younger to me has feelings for me. I am
starting life over at this time and he is being
supportive of it by being there,
letting me go on in my life, yet I feel strange and
feel am doing something taboo. I am confused and wonder
if this is
what
I should do, though moving away from him is gonna be
even tougher.
I
also have trust issues having had an
ex who
abused my trust. So am I doing the right thing? Is
he saying the truth? So mixed up. Please help me sort
out this mess." It may sound
cheesy but age is just a number
First of all you have to get this idea
out of you head that
you are
old. Yes, he is 10
years younger but the age bracket is such that you
too both must have a lot of
common things. In the end
what brings a couple together and makes them happy
is not their age but
what they share and how they are able to appreciate
each other as they are. So if this man gives you what no
one else has given, it will be sad to leave him just
because a few of your family members will find it odd
that you are
dating a younger man
after a divorce.
We now live in a world in which many
women earn more than their husbands or are
raising great kids without men so it is perfectly
normal to see these
women dating younger men. I think your
trust
issues have nothing to do with this man's age and you
should deal with that separately. You will probably have
trust issues right now even with a
man older than you.
Good men are hard to find and if you have found one,
please do not dump him just because he is not 35. |
