Summary: Marriage or
relationship with a man or woman who has children with
another person is always a problem. Because of
having a child together, it is nearly impossible for
them to completely breakup and that means that the next
person has to give them some freedom in maintaining
contact and socializing together for the
sake of the
child. Below is the case of a man whose girlfriend
is going beyond that by even sleeping with the father of
the child.
Something
is not right about this arrangement. If she
loves you as much as you think she does, why
would she
get back with an ex, and even worse,
have a child with him (did she not know
about
birth control)? And then that
man is in her bed while you are not. In
other words, you should run from her as fast as
you can. She is simply using for whatever you
are worth but in reality she is
stuck with the father of her child. They
both probably even think of you as an idiot to
believe that you are in love with her while they
are
happily together as a family.
If this relationship has to go anywhere
-- and I think it is very naive of you to think of
marriage -- she first has to
breakup with
that boyfriend of hers. Yes, I understand that due to a
child together they will need to maintain contact till
the child is 18 and even later, but that does not mean that
they have to
share a bed together. They can discuss most issues
related to the child over the phone and he never has to step
inside the door (as most
divorced men do when the come to pick up or drop off
their child). She has to stop being
promiscuous,
and if not, you do not
have a
relationship with her.
