She continues, "The fact that he never
does makes me feel like he's not
interested anymore or is
cheating
on me. I want to
trust him and I try really hard to because I
like to
stay positive, but I just want us to
have more sex. I am
lucky if I get it twice
a week. It's
not satisfying. It makes me feel
insecure too, like I don't
satisfy his needs enough or
I am too fat or something. I want to know
why my
boyfriend never wants to have sex anymore
like we used to."
Assuming
that he is not
cheating or has no medical problems (depression,
stress, hormonal problems, etc.), I think you are
discovering more about him as a person. Since your
relationship is still very new, there is a lot to
learn about each other, and one of those things is the
difference in libido.
Obviously, when a 22-year old
first meets a woman, the
libido
is high in the beginning, but eventually, he settles
down to whatever he is most comfortable with. It is just
that he maybe perfectly
happy with
sex twice a week and it is also perfectly normal for
you to
want more sex than him (it may be important to note
that most men and
women do not have sex everyday forever; the normal
range is about two to five times a week depending on
age,
libido, culture, point in the relationship, etc.).
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