| Summary: Read tips below
for women who find that the men in their lives are good
folks but just not cool enough to show off to their
trendy and
stylish girlfriends. Should they dump
them or give them tips for a style makeover? Or
just reconcile to the reality? |
|
|
As you
can probably realize
no one is perfect. Your
boyfriend is not a perfect man and I hope you
recognize that you are not either. You
love your boyfriend because he has some great
qualities and personality that you love but obviously he
has some attributes that you are not so happy with. I am
sure that if you ask all your
girl friends they too have
boyfriends and husbands that are not everything that
they would like. Similarly, your
boyfriend
probably hates a bunch of things about you too, and
so do most men.
What I have learned is that it is nearly impossible to
change people and any attempt to do so are often not
only counter-productive but can also create
friction in
a relationship. People change only when they want to --
even
kids do not want to change and it is even more
challenging to ask
adults to change. Actually, when
someone wants to force them to change, they can actually
become defensive and either not change or, in
retaliation, even become opposite of what you want them
to become. |
|
|
I would, therefore, suggest that you look at all the
positive qualities that you love about him and try to work
around his personality. I mean would you force your
boyfriend to
eat beef if he is a
Hindu or
eat pork if he is
a
Muslim or any
meat if he is
vegetarian? So if he does not
like noisy group of friends and does not feel comfortable,
in the presence of
strangers, then don't drag him. Instead,
try to hang out with another couple that he likes.
Hopefully, as he socializes more he will
lose some of his
shyness.
Similarly, regarding
his style, if you
criticize his
appearance, he will resent it and might start to have
low
self esteem. On the contrary, try to go
shopping with him as
a couple and help him
pick clothes. Trust me, many guys just
don't know
how to shop. They just buy whatever they have
been wearing before without realizing that it may already be
out of fashion. Also,
give him gifts of what would make him
look good. That way he will be forced to wear
stylish
clothes. |
|
|
| Related:
How to become a
metrosexual
How to
make my boyfriend romantic
Is he the one?
How can a
geek find a girlfriend
How to
find Mr Right
Signs of
a shy guy
What to do if
my husband is fat
I am not attracted to my boyfriend
Can men wear
thongs |
Stephanie
writes, "My