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Leo
writes, "I have issues going up to
talk to girls. I feel that they will
reject me and I wouldn't know
what to
say. I do realize I need more
self confidence but I feel
tongue-tied around girls.
Please help!"
Date as if you don't care!
Your
problem is easy to overcome. The technique that I like
is that you first learn to
talk to women that you are not
interested
in romantically. If you are too cautious and always
trying to
impress girls, you will not be yourself; you are
trying to be someone else and neither will you do a good
job doing that nor do girls like
men
who fake. The
strategy for
smart dating is to
talk to women as you will
talk to anyone else and get to know them as people
first and potential lovers later. When you take
this
approach, girls will see the real you and that is
what they are
drawn to.
For example, do you have
sisters,
friends of sisters,
cousins,
wives of friends or family members and just start to
get
comfortable around women. Start talking to them
about
movies,
politics,
sports,
family
topics, whatever that you like. As you do it more,
you will learn to
communicate with women, which as you know is a bit
different than
talking to
guys.
Once you have done that for a few months then start
trying to
talk to girls that you like as a practice. You will
do that with the understanding that some of these
conversations may not go so well, but it is OK
because you are simply practicing. Even the
boldest of men make mistakes when
approaching girls and often say wrong or even stupid
things but the key is to learn from it and move on to
other girls. Yes, may
girls will reject you but even
handsome, charming, and
rich men are rejected all the time by
girls who aren't always necessarily beautiful or
smart. This is just the way the
dating game works. However, as you do this many many
times, you will end up meeting that
ONE woman that you
will like and she will
become
your girlfriend. So the more you try the better your
chances are. |
