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Metrosexual
men are in
What
can other men learn from them?
By Pierre
Coda
I knew it had
to happen some day because when members of any group reach
critical mass they are no longer shy about their existence.
I am talking about metrosexuals - men who have existed
for centuries but were not sure if they wanted an identity of
their own or were just scared to project one.
Not that the macho man is dead, but the metrosexual is
definitely 'in'. There
will always be admirers of macho men.
In fact some macho men are actually popular among women
even if they treat women like some lowly creatures.
Many women just love looking up to them as some kind of
Godly creatures who will protect them from danger - what if they
abuse you the rest of the time?
The instinct comes from our time in the caves when only
the strongest men could fight other crazy men, or even worse,
those dangerous wild animals. The cute guys were just good
enough to flirt with during the tribal festivals or dance around
the fire.
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Now
that women no longer need men for 'protection,' they can openly
say what they really like.
In the same vein, now that the men no longer have to look
strong and tough, they can be whatever they want to be.
Well, this is not a new phenomenon.
At least in the industrialized world, during last
two decades, women have made tremendous strides in all walks of
life. Unfortunately
it was also the time that gays made their appearance on the
stage. Since only a
very small percentage of the inhabitants of the planet have any
appreciation for gays, even gays were afraid to claim their due
rights. Now just imagine how tough it will be for metrosexuals to
make a statement! They
were so terrorized by gay bashing that all these years they
desperately tried to look and act macho whether they liked it or
not, and even more importantly, whether women liked them or not
that way.
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 Has anything
changed in this century that makes it easier for metrosexuals?
A few things. Gays
are increasingly being accepted in many parts of the world.
The movie stars do not have to kill half a dozen thugs to
get the girl of their dreams.
As women need men less for financial and physical
security, they expect men to give them what men have asked from
women for centuries - eye candy.
Apart from expecting them to be romantic, they want them
to take care of their bodies (not to fight wild animals but to
make gentle love to them).
Asian (including Japanese) men that never truly turned
into macho men are considered cool even in the west.
MYNIPPON.COM gets flooded with emails from women who no
longer want a hulk - they want a cute guy who will be their
'friend'. Who will
go shopping with them and help them find clothes rather than sit
like a moron on a bench in the store and dream of going home,
grab a beer, and surf the channels. Who will actually help them choose clothes and makeup when
they get dressed. A
man who knows what to buy when she asks him to pick up an
exfoliant from the local Aveda store.
Someone that will take weekend spa trips with them and
enjoy sitting in a mud pit for hours. A man who practices yoga rather than
lifts
weights.
A man who will be as much fun to be around as are her
girlfriends. Who
will actually talk to a woman about topics that interest them
rather than just cars and beer.
Someone who actually knows how to cook a gourmet dish and
find the right wine to go with it.
There are so many things that women were afraid to ask
men since they knew that if they did they were not sure if he
would be able to pay the bills.
Our research
is showing that women are more pleased than men now that
metrosexuals are cool. They
no longer have to contend with supposedly macho men who are
wimps in real life anyway.
Not only these men can be themselves more often, they can
actually present a side of themselves that would scare some of
the less adventurous women, and of course, all those macho men.
Some of you
are probably already good enough to be a metrosexual and might
teach me something, so please do write to me.
It will help me in my efforts to make metrosexuals
‘cool’. For
those who are closet metrosexuals, I plan to present a game plan
that will make you the 'dream boy' of all those women who have
secretly waited for a metrosexual to come along.
To
the macho
men, I say, "Ask yourself who you are again. If you are comfortable in your body, do nothing.
If not, explore a new
world."
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