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Amelia
writes, "I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year
now and when I first met him he was a
thoughtful and loving but after a while I started to
notice he wasn't who I thought he was. He started
working third shift and now I barley see him. When I'm
up, he's sleeping, and when I'm sleeping, he's up. On
his days off I feel like that's our chance to
spend time
together but it's not like that at all. He always
wants to be out and when he does stay home he makes it
seem like he doesn't want to be home. I'm at the point
where I don't know what to do anymore. We
rarely have sex. He tells me that that's all I think
of and my definition of spending time with him is
having sex but it's more to it than that. to me
sex is a
form of affection. I love him and I don't want to go
somewhere else for
what I desire. I need some help."
This man is not meeting his
obligations in the relationship
In any relationship, as time passes,
frequency of sex may go down, but in your case we
are talking a huge
drop in sex and any form of intimacy within just one
year. Like you, I suspect that there is something else
going on. Obviously if he is working long hours and gets
tired,
desire for sex does go down with that, but what I do
not understand is his desire to be away from you even
when he can. I suspect that he may have
fallen in love with another woman or is simply not
happy with you for whatever reason. Over the next few
days, you should watch carefully his behavior and try to
find out if he maybe seeing someone else. In any case if
things are so bad at this stage in the relationship,
I would suggest that you seriously think about
breaking up with him. You seem to have a
normal, healthy sexual appetite and this man is not
up to the job. |
