| Celine
writes, "I am
interested
in this man who is
27 years
my junior and the only contact we have is through
business. I would like to get closer but, I don't
know how. I have made comments to him but I'm not sure
if he is just trying to
ignore
me. I don't want to make a fool of myself, but I
would like to let him know I care for him."
Most men are not used to being
approached by cougars
As you can imagine -- and that is when
I have been a big advocate of
relationships with big age gaps -- it is not easy
for anyone to connect the dots right away when a much
younger/older
person makes an advance. When I run into a woman
around my age, I immediately notice the signs. On the
other hand if a much older/younger
woman does the same, my first reaction is that I
maybe misreading or that there is a misunderstanding.
In this case, the
opposites attract theory does not work.
That is what is happening to you as well. Plus, the fact
that you interact with him in a
business context, makes things even more difficult
-- most men typically do not expect to
find a
date with an older woman in a professional setting.
There is a third dimension to this. Are you sure
he is
single? What if he is not
attracted to older women or to you specifically
(this may have nothing to do with
how great
you look but all men have their preferences)?
So once you have made sure that he is
single and somewhat looking to date, try to invite
him to join you for a non-business event. Maybe a round
of golf
(this is just an example but you have to see what will
work in your situation) or a
few drinks
to brainstorm about something somewhat related to
business (so that he does not refuse to attend). During
that meeting, when you both will be somewhat more
casual, you can
flirt with
him a little and see his reaction. Chances are that
without making a fool of yourself, you will be able to
decipher if he is game or not. |
