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How to find a
girlfriend?
Advice for men
By Pierre
Coda
I
cannot
count how many times men ask me the reason why some
so-called average guys get the best girls while rich,
handsome, hard-working gentlemen either get no girls or get
just average girls. Have
you ever wondered that some guys just have the wildest
bedroom experiences whenever they want?
When they go to parties, girls flock to them.
Their phone keeps ringing even if they do not return
the calls. Girls
actually send them gifts.
I recently met a guy who is
visiting Paris shortly
and a drop-dead gorgeous woman is actually paying for
everything. She
literally told him to just bring some clothes and she has
already sent him the air tickets.
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It
is indeed true that all those hard-working, academic types
that always got straight A's, that went to top universities,
and were hired by the best firms do not do so well when it
comes to women. From
what I know they have a hard time finding someone to even
hold hands when they
have everything – the apartment, the car, the looks, and
even the money for a perfect evening.
In fact several clients told me that after spending a
fortune bringing the woman to an expensive restaurant, all
she would do was to give them a polite hug, say a few warm
words, and hail a cab to go to home. (Related
article: Tips
on casual dating)
On the other hand all those guys who always cheated
in school, rarely came to class, and then partied all the
time in university have a great time practically every night.
So it is not that women like bad boys; it is just
that these boys know what a woman wants because they have
worked on it themselves.
(Related article: How
to find a soul mate?)
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 My
experience from talking to women, men, and couples has shown
that women do not necessarily seek rich or handsome guys all
the time. Of course, when they are ready to marry someone, they want to
know what he makes, how much wealth he has, what his future
looks like, and such but when it comes to just friendship or
light romance or one-night stand, they look for something
else. If you
drive a Porsche or wear Armani suits or have a million
dollars in the bank it does not matter if you are essentially
a bore. While a
girl might come to you once in a while to rip you off but
more often than not she will go with a guy who makes her
feel special by the attention he pays to her, entertains her
by his jokes, charms her by his chivalry, and brings her to
a point of no return.
To
some men these skills come naturally or they learned them
early on. Maybe
their father or elder brother taught them how to charm girls
or they learned on their own by trial and error.
But a vast majority of men have to learn these
skills. In fact
it is easier to learn these through a structured program
than to through hit and trial.
In
my opinion, it is fairly easy to learn the techniques of
approaching women, behaving in a confident
manner, saying
the right things, and then taking control of the situation
till the girl is virtually your slave.
I am sure that those of you who have had this
experience know what I mean.
This is a point at which you do not have to call her
because she does even before you expect.
In fact you have to decline intimacy because you do not
have the time or energy. So get
your act together and do let me know how you make out.
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