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How
to have a strong marriage?
Apart
of many other things, physical intimacy is key in marriage
----- By Pierre
Coda
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you are like most married couples, you discovered intimacy on your own,
and that too, in some clandestine manner. What I mean
is that how many parents or teachers are out there who make
sure that you understand what you need to about such an
important thing in life? I look at things like driving
or math or computers or language or even how to hold your
fork - can you recall how many times your mother told you
to be careful while driving or your father helped you
practice parking in a tight spot? When it comes to
intimacy,
if you were
lucky enough to have open-minded parents or
teachers, you learned something about it but in a format
that made it look like dirty, embarrassing, undesirable,
not-for-you, and even a sin. Something that it is absolutely
not. |
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 Curious
that we are, you probably did end up learning about it one
way or the other. You probably watched something on TV
or in the movies or read some magazines or checked out some adult
websites (Porn
addiction) or just asked a
friend. Occasionally you tried whatever little you
know on another person who probably was as clueless as you
were. No wonder that many of my clients even in their
30s and 40s have no idea what good lovemaking
is all about.
They are not only ignorant but also totally unaware of how
they have wasted their life because of ignorance. In
fact after years of working with couples, I have
concluded that one of the main reasons for their problem is
lack of good intimacy - which in part can be attributed to their
lack of or incorrect knowledge about it. |
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There
are many books and websites for couples to improve their
relationship, of if they are married, to strengthen their marriage. Most
of the information is such that unless both partners read it
together or browse the website side by side and then
understand it, it might be meaningless. I would,
therefore, suggest that you not only dedicate the time to review
this information as a couple you also experiment with it till you
get it right.
Recommended links:
Seek
help from a marriage counselor if needed
How to save a marriage through sex
Couples in long marriages
Sex after marriage
Money tips for couples
My
husband does not satisfy me
Is it
time to leave my husband
My husband is suffocating me |
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