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When
your man is clueless about seduction
How to teach a
man to seduce a woman...
By Pierre
Coda
Kim from Sedona, Arizona asks us, "I am a 19-year old virgin who is currently dating a wonderful 24-year old man. He is young and energetic, loves football, and enjoys horror movies. But he is not an aggressive guy if that is what you might suspect. In fact he is
a bit shy to me. He is not very experienced in
intimate activities and is fast to get to it before I am ready. He really does not know
how to seduce a woman. I am planning to
be intimate with him on on my 20th birthday. How can I make sure that
my
first time is very special and
memorable." (Related
article: How
to find the first relationship of your life?)
There are several ways to deal with
your boyfriend's lack of skills in
seduction. Let me talk about each of
them separately:
- First of all you will need to be patient with him and really
schedule enough time for
lovemaking. Also think of it as a way to
 discover
intimacy as a couple.
Robert Irwin, the author of many
books, writes, "...there is no better gift
(from a man) than helping her to discover and explore this amazing type of pleasure!"
Yes, there will be surprises but you will both learn from it. It is likely that he might
climax very early the first time but this should not upset you. I know you might be thinking that you want your first time to last forever but be prepared if it does not.
For most people it does not and can
actually be somewhat of a
disappointment and
anti-climatic. Do not make him feel
incapable if that happens. Take a half hour break (I suggest to my clients that they use this time to
drink a glass of wine or just cuddle listening to soft,
romantic music).
Next time he will take longer.
- Secondly, you need to ask yourself what turns you on. Is it kisses or is it romantic conversation? Tell him that clearly and ask him to do it for you. I also see no reason why you should not help him or even do it yourself.
- Finally, think of it as a lifelong learning process. No one can ever claim to know it all. The
possibility for
intimacy are infinite. As I always say, knowledge goes a long way in helping people enjoy
it. There are a many books/videos/websites that
you should check out together as a
couple to get as much knowledge as
you can.
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