a relationship when you are on a budget
How to access
high-quality people without spending a
lot of money...
from Houston, Texas, writes, "I am fully convinced now with your
logic that if someone is looking for a real relationship,
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they have to sign-up with a few decent
dating websites. There are so many, so-called free personal websites, and before I read your article, I signed up with half-a-dozen of them hoping that I can find someone
to date, since I was not looking for a very serious relationship anyway. However, as soon as I signed up, my profile appeared at the same time on multiple websites and some of these websites were actually
adult-oriented. I started to get a lot of offensive messages and my mailbox was full of SPAM. But, as I said before, I do not have a big budget for dating and am not sure if I want to pay $25 a month for membership for each website. All I am looking for is an occasional date. What do you suggest?"
Yes, as we have emphasized in another
article (Online dating)
there is no one perfect website and no one perfect payment plan. Also it is important to be signed up on more than one website for the sake of exploring different types of people and increasing your chances of finding a good match. Some of the websites that we like provide you with reasonable payment options but it adds up pretty fast and soon you might be spending over $100 a month in membership fees alone.
That is when
lavalife is a great option for those in situation like yours. Membership is actually free, but remember that it is not a free website (otherwise we would not be talking about it here). You only pay when you like someone to a point that you want to initiate contact by email or instant message. For each such action, you pay by credits. Receiving, reading, and replying to such communications is free. This pay-as-you-go feature not only allows you to control how much you spend, you can also leave your profile online for months without worrying about the meter running while you are busy working on a big project and have no time for dating. From feedback that we have received from our members,
lavalife is ideal for folks like you who are not sure what you want yet; the type who are flexible: I will enter a relationship if I find the right person; otherwise all I want is date and occasional intimacy. Moving within the three options offered by
lavalife (dating, relationship, and intimate
encounters) is easy.
We strongly recommend that you contact the webmasters of the
free websites that you signed up with so that you can delete your profile. You might also want to get a new email address. For your future use, here are some
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