That Give A Man The Absolute Chance To Score With Women
a man, successfully meeting women is all about how you ACT.
Period. Sure, you have to look halfway decent in
the way you dress, stay groomed and not stink like the chunk
of two month old polish sausage that I just found hiding in
the back of my refrigerator the other day... but the
make-or-break factor is and always will be the WORDS that
come out of your mouth, and the ATTITUDE
that underlies it.
in mind, here's eight points to load into your mental
backpack when you're getting ready to go off to battle
(which is to say, every day of your life...)
1) Remain Focused on the Game -- The
attracting women is all about knowing
how to engage them
with a natural curiosity that shows you are at least a
little bit interested in *their* world (WARNING: too much = a slick phony, so be careful).
for Life Lines (anything that she's hinting she would be
open to talking about) and stay committed to working them.
Forget about yourself. Fade out your own
There'll be plenty of time in the future to gab about your
own amazing life.
Remember this: you are NEVER desperately looking for an
"ear to bend" -- you are always looking to draw
HER out instead. Only those lost souls with limited social
contact hungrily crave the attention of any person they can
corner into listening to their non-stop jabbering (I'm not
trying to sound cruel here, just honest).
Tune out the surrounding world and focus in on her as if you
were the only two people in the universe. If
done properly (without any subservient whimpering), this
kind of attention is flattering to her in an almost breathtakingly way.
2) Stay Calm -- Above all else, act like you're
familiar with this whole process.
always begins as a low pressure event. Place her
at ease with your laid back demeanor, and let her slowly
begin to feed off of it. Be a
flirt. Don't be obvious -- keep your interest
vague so as to give everyone an "out" to protect
all egos involved (both yours and hers). She
will appreciate your tactful approach immensely, and be
impressed with your consideration and charm.
3) Demonstrate Charisma (Likeability) -- Sometime
during the course of the evening, offer a single simple
compliment about something unique to her style and
presentation about herself. No canned "You have
such beautiful eyes..." compliments. Don't go
overboard or make a big deal about ANY compliments that you
pay her. Make them seem casual and unplanned (a
sudden pleasant thought that just popped into your head and
slipped out before you could stop it...), then IMMEDIATELY
move on to other topics. Trust me, she heard it.
4) Touch Her To Seduce Her --
Use any excuse you can
dream up to get a hand on her. Of course I mean
only in the appropriate places... an arm, shoulder, a hair
brushback. Do not grope her like a
Touch is extremely important because it demonstrates a
interest in her and keeps you away from the deadly
"nice-guy-friend" category. Just make
sure you always keep it classy.
5) Risk Taking Is A Turn-On -- Take a chance... a
bold comment, break the speed limit, whatever...
unpredictable and keep her a little off balance.
Men are powerful and at ease with themselves, right? (see
6) Be A Man, Not A Boy -- Keep your apartment styled
in a mature fashion -- avoid the frat-house look even though
your football buddies will probably declare you a big puss.
A few REAL house plants (the kind you actually have to
water... yee-gads!), and dark solids everywhere.
A few *paintings* (don't spend a fortune, just hit the flea
markets) instead of the Pam Anderson
it? Also (very important) junk the
"bunk" and get yourself a
(because you entertain female company from time to time, that's
why). Time to bury the
bed sheets too.
Keep a few bottles of
wine in stock (Which
wine should I buy?) and the kind of goodies
hiding around the house that a girl would like (popcorn,
cheese, ice cream, etc.) for when you want to veg out in
front of the tube and get her loosened up.
7) Nurture The
Trance Of Romance -- Take her out to
see a mushy chick flick by surprise... make a dinner and
light a silly candle on a "spontaneous" whim
(nothing is spontaneous to a real seducer...).
Do the things that trigger those romantic thoughts and
attract women naturally by pulling up all their
fuzziest memories. You'll score major points for
8) Project The Attitude Of The High Status Male --
You must NEVER allow yourself to act like a fawning
"nice guy"... but you always want to SEEM like one. Imagine you have a
waiting for you back home, and you're trying to determine if
she would make a nice new addition. I'm serious.
This is the kind of unspoken "winners" attitude
that you must keep burning in the far recesses of your mind
at all times when you're dating women.
Assume that she likes you and will respond favorably to your
charm, but never assume you have a green light to start
telling fart jokes or break into your full blown comedy club
routine. Humor is all about the CLEVER observation of
the absurdities of everyday life -- not the repeating of
dumb jokes you read in
Hustler or doing your lame celebrity
impressions... ("Do I make you horny
That's why they call it a SENSE of humor...you need to base
your wit on what you *sense* to be going on around you,
which often lies beneath the obvious.
So there you have it. Try a few of these attitude
adjustments for yourself -- maybe just as an experiment
if you can't face the idea of actually changing anything
permanently about yourself. Let me know what
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the author: Mike Pilinski is the
author of "Without
Embarrassment: The Social Coward's
Totally Fearless Seduction System"... a unique method
of meeting girls that will have you making up for wasted time spent living in shy-guy hell from the very first moment
you test it out.