When trying to pick up
women, always work alone.....By Mike
Maybe there's something to be said for going out with your
buddies to work the bars and pick up
women, but notice how rarely it ever actually seems to succeed?
Girls go to the clubs
in groups for safety and to make it difficult for all but the most
aggressive males to pluck them away from their circle of friends
and make a powerful first impression. But it puzzles me as to
why GUYS feel they need to run in packs the same way.
Do you draw confidence from your male comrades in a club
situation? Does the competitive spirit make you better? Or are
you even MORE afraid to take a chance with a critical audience
of snickering baboons watching your every move (AND screw up)? You probably don't know what the
hell you're doing when it
comes to approaching women TO BEGIN WITH... will somehow demonstrating this humiliating deficiency of your male skills in
front of your goofball buddies make it any better?
this: most of your genuine chances to pick up women won't ever
happen when you're out with the boys in a bar -- there are far too
many distractions and way too much competition for her attention.
This is a situation where no one but the most VISUALLY OBVIOUS
DOMINANT MALE among the crowd has any advantage. Most women in this
'party mode' are only there to drink and dance and act nutty anyway.
the most top dog male in the joint has any prospect of
breaking through this goofy ‘fun
trance' and getting a rise
from his suggestive behavior. You? You're just the sort of
she completely ignores; nothing but background clutter. The
same way that you ignore all the fat chicks in the crowd and focus
in on only the hottest looking babes. Right?
Your 'modus operandi' has to be completely different.
In order to keep a safety zone around your fragile
ego, a complex
NON-verbal interplay must occur before you can ever speak any
words to her with confidence. This takes time and requires a
situation where the two of you can focus at least some *attention* on one another without having the trance broken by
other people around you (preferably strangers, and not
in doing anything particularly important i.e., like library readers for
instance). The very same girl that would immediately brush you
off in a bar can be wide open to your advances in AN ENTIRELY
DIFFERENT SITUATION -- one where you can monopolize her attention. That's why you must always keep your antennae out
and be looking for opportunities in the most unlikely of situations!
What not to say while trying to pickup a girl)
In any case, the absolute WORSE situation for trying to meet
women happens at some wild event where her guard is up like a
silver cross to ward off all the drunken
losers suddenly "full" of
liquid courage (low status
males). You'll do *much better* when you learn how to establish a bit of
communication in places where her guard is DOWN and you have a chance to disarm her with your male presence and
charm. It's really not all that difficult once you understand that
what she needs to see from you is just one little sign of Dominant Male behavior.
news... you can easily learn how to *fake* the most key HSM
(High Status Male) attitudes until they become second
nature! Seductions are a lot like *sporting contests*
in that you never know what unforeseen twists and turns may
happen on your way to victory. You can't allow yourself to
be handcuffed by the need to keep looking over your shoulder
to make sure you're not doing anything that will make you
the butt of jokes and mockery from your "crowd"
for weeks to come. A lot of times, you'll have to scrap the
game plan and make changes to your technique on the fly --
and these adjustments don't always fit the image of what
your leering buddies probably think is cool.
Look, don't play the loser's game of going out to work the clubs
with your "gang." Not when you're serious about
women, anyway. Bad experiences will only sap your confidence
and make it more difficult than ever to effectively play the "real"
game... the one where you try to win the desire of a beautiful
woman. You know... the ONLY game that actually matters.
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Mike Pilinski is the
author of "Without
Embarrassment: The Social Coward's
Totally Fearless Seduction System"... a unique method
of meeting girls that will have you making up for wasted time spent living in shy-guy
hell from the very first moment
you test it out.