Outsourcing husbands to Asia
On one hand we have our society that emphasizes equality of men and women, but on the other hand, this equality has had some negative outcomes because men and women have not used their freedom with responsibilities. While no reasonable person would argue that we take these freedoms away from women, many experts attribute the high divorce rate in America to both men and women misunderstanding the true meaning of equality. (Related article: Don't let your marriage fall apart and result in a divorce)
So is it true that a lot of women are now starting to look for traditional men and have a traditional marriage. You know one in which the man is the main breadwinner and the woman takes care of him and the children. While there have always been women who have liked this idea even in today's society, I would not be surprised if this trend catches on as the unemployment situation in the US continues to be bad leaving many women unemployed or underemployed and forcing them to find men who can provide for them. (Related article: Saving marriage in America)
But there are other reasons as well why women like traditional men and traditional marriages, particularly with Asian men. Kathleen, a woman from Washington, tells us that she married her Japanese husband for a variety of reasons but more importantly because he is so different than American men that she was dating before. "The main reason to marry him, of course, was that I fell in love with him as he did with me. What I do love about my husband the most, though, is how gentle and considerate he is. Coming from Washington where I dated a lot of men, I really had difficulty finding a suitor who appreciated a more traditional marriage. I enjoy being the primary homemaker (I teach part-time). I enjoy taking care of my husband, and take pride in our home. He respects my role as a housewife where the American men I dated were always so worried about having everything divided equally; cooking, cleaning, working, bills, etc. I missed the 'idea' of a traditonal marriage and became tired of dating male feminists."
No wonder then that Abby says, "I want to go to Asia and want to renew my life. I want a real man to marry me, seriously... that's it."
So buckle up Asian men, it seems that we are also offshoring our 'husbands' after all the IT jobs.
Recommended link: Physical intimacy is key to a strong relationship
So is it true that a lot of women are now starting to look for traditional men and have a traditional marriage. You know one in which the man is the main breadwinner and the woman takes care of him and the children. While there have always been women who have liked this idea even in today's society, I would not be surprised if this trend catches on as the unemployment situation in the US continues to be bad leaving many women unemployed or underemployed and forcing them to find men who can provide for them. (Related article: Saving marriage in America)
But there are other reasons as well why women like traditional men and traditional marriages, particularly with Asian men. Kathleen, a woman from Washington, tells us that she married her Japanese husband for a variety of reasons but more importantly because he is so different than American men that she was dating before. "The main reason to marry him, of course, was that I fell in love with him as he did with me. What I do love about my husband the most, though, is how gentle and considerate he is. Coming from Washington where I dated a lot of men, I really had difficulty finding a suitor who appreciated a more traditional marriage. I enjoy being the primary homemaker (I teach part-time). I enjoy taking care of my husband, and take pride in our home. He respects my role as a housewife where the American men I dated were always so worried about having everything divided equally; cooking, cleaning, working, bills, etc. I missed the 'idea' of a traditonal marriage and became tired of dating male feminists."
No wonder then that Abby says, "I want to go to Asia and want to renew my life. I want a real man to marry me, seriously... that's it."
So buckle up Asian men, it seems that we are also offshoring our 'husbands' after all the IT jobs.
Recommended link: Physical intimacy is key to a strong relationship

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