My wife wants to have a child before she gets too old

Mark, a man in his 20s is in a serious relationship to a 46-year old woman. He writes, "I know it's difficult for a woman in her 40's to have kids and believe me I don't even know if I want any. I guess that she's worried that I might want to be a father some day and that I might leave her for a more younger fertile woman. I keep reassuring her that that's never going to happen but she tells me that she wants to have a baby with me more then anything (some day) and she's worried that soon she won't be able to. The donor egg option is definitely worth considering. I know the relationship is still new (we have been dating only a few months) and to be honest I don't know if I want to be a father. That's something I'm still mulling over but I do plan to ask her to marry me within the next couple of months. I already told her 19-year old daughter and she was surprised and happy. She still tells me that she won't refer to me as dad."

It is a common concern among most older women even when they are married to a man their age and they have reasons to fear it -- so many men do leave them for younger women. The concern is amplified when they are married to a much younger man.

The way the donor eggs work is that you will have to find a younger woman who is willing to donate her eggs. Yes, the child will not be genetically your wife's but she will carry the baby like any other woman and be able to breastfeed her like any regular mom. Not everyone is comfortable with the idea, though (you may not always know the genetic history of the donor and if you decide it to keep it a secret, the nosy people will comment that the child has no resemblance to the mother) and finding a donor plus having the medical procedures done can cost as much $30,000 in the US.