Lesbians right to artificial insemination

Remember those homophobes who run a clinic by the name of North Coast Women's Medical Group in Vista, CA? Arguing that Jesus Christ hates lesbians, they turned away Guadalupe Benitez and her partner Joanne Clark when they were denied ART.

It turns out that Jesus sent them an email clarifying that he loves gays and lesbians as much as he loves everyone else, including homophobes. The doctors then decided to settle the case rather than lose in a court for discrimination.

Jon Cryer Lisa Joyner adoption

When I heard that Jon Cryer and his wife, Lisa Joyner, have adopted a baby girl, named Daisy, I am starting to wonder if Lisa had trouble conceiving on her own or through IUI or IVF. She is 42 and that age it is not uncommon to face fertility problems.

Rather than trying endlessly either naturally or through unreliable methods like ART or donor eggs (many couples become depressed or even divorce while trying to become parents) adoption is one sure method that you can bring a child home when it is all said and done.

Should I adopt a child with my younger boyfriend?

Maribelle writes, "I am a 64 year old woman who was married for 27 years and has two children, one 30 and another 23. They are both on their own. My husband and I have been separated for 7 months. I moved to Mexico for change of environment and to evaluate how I wanted to spend the rest of my life and met a man who is 27 years my junior. We have fallen in love. He is a surfer, organic farmer and financially independent like me (I am convinced that he is not looking to grab my retirement savings). We have separate homes. He thought I was maybe 45 or 52, the oldest I could have been in his mind. He fainted when he found out he was in love with a woman old enough to be his mother. We have talked about it all and have become comfortable with our age difference. We went out in public for the first time and found out that we could be out without feeling uncomfortable. We walked arm in arm and flirted with each other openly; it was refreshing because we have been keeping our love a secret. We both know we have to live in the moment because this is such a gift to both of us to find this love. We are very compatible in so many ways that it scares us. We both feel like we have been given a potion of love, we feel bewitched and live in a bubble of love where everything looks beautiful and doable. I feel so full of life and I don't remember having such a wild sexual experience as this. I thought those days were over but it seems I am getting younger by the day. I feel very confident and we have such wonderful conversations and the affection is overflowing. It makes me nervous because I have never been so in love as this. He too has never experienced this love. He does want children and talks to me about adopting together and getting married. I have an issue with being a Mommy again. We want to be together. Can this work?"

What a beautiful story and I am so happy for you. I hear from a lot of women like you who have found love with a younger man.

Obviously, like any other relationship, these relationships have challenges and one of the big ones is the desire of these men to become fathers. I think most of them recognize that they have to make some sacrifices in order to enjoy their relationship, and that is why, if you absolutely do not want to deal with diapers and toys, you must tell him so forcefully. To be very honest, it is simply not fun for you to take care of a child at this stage. You have already done that and it is time for you to just sit back and enjoy life.

If he truly loves you and wants to have that "father" experience I think he is old enough to act that role out with your children or get involved in the community by helping disadvantaged kids with soccer or Math or whatever talent he has. Hopefully, for the sake of your love for each other, it is a small sacrifice that he will happily make. If not, then, you should both discuss how to resolve it so that both of you are happy. If this is as beautiful a relationship as you say, you both might have to make some compromises.

Japanese women behaving badly when overseas

A Japanese woman tells me, "Some Japanese girls are so ignorant that they misunderstand foreign people are very open about those things. Actually those low-educated women often have a wrong image of western people because of TV dramas like Sex and the city. Some people really think that most Western women are like Samantha... That's why those poor women think that they also have to be like Samantha when in Western countries."

Katherine Heigl mom without pregnancy

Gossip magazines always like to speculate when a Hollywood celebrity is pregnant. Even if she is spotted shopping for a gift, they will immediately start suggesting that a baby is on its way.

Now Katherine Heigl, who got married to Josh Kelly is choosing to have a baby but she is adopting. I am not sure if she has fertility issues or if she or her husband have already tried options like IUI, IVF, or surrogate mom, but she has adopted a baby girl from South Korea called Nayleigh (or Leigh).

It may be interesting to mention that previously Heigl told USA Today that, "I am done with the whole idea of having my own children. It doesn't seem like fun. I don't think it's necessary to go through all of that." If that is the case, considering how over-populated the planet is, this is the greenest way to become a parent. Plus, she need not worry about pregnancy weight loss or stretch marks or breastfeeding or sagging breasts.

Michelle Stafford parent through surrogate mother

As I have written before, by the time a woman is 40, her fertility has dropped to a point that it is highly unlikely that she can deliver a living, healthy, normal baby. Yes, some women do that but the number is in very low single digits. Others can try techniques like IUI or IVF but they are not much help. A smarter thing to do is to what Celine Dion did who froze her embryos a long time ago and then became pregnant with it.

If you have failed with these attempts (and burned thousands of dollars in case your insurance does not cover these procedures) then your next option is to use donor eggs, in which case, the real mother is someone else but a woman can still feel connected to the baby since she will be carrying it. These procedures are prohibitively expensive in most of the Western world but in countries like Czech Republic or Ukraine, poor and desperate women will sell their eggs for a very low price. The probability improves but if this does not work, another option is to use a surrogate mother, a procedure used by Ricky Martin, Sarah Jessica Parker, Marissa Jaret Winokur, and Clay Aiken. In other words, hire a woman to carry a man's child using the surrogate's or donor's eggs. This procedure can cost tens of thousands of dollars and surrogate moms are not lining up for the job.

We can now add another name to the list of women who are becoming "moms" with the help of surrogates: Michelle Stafford, who at 43, tried all of the above, but failed. Interestingly, in her case, since she is single mom by choice, both the sperm and egg are from donors and she will simply be raising the child. This option is akin to paying someone for adopting their baby.

I got this comment from someone who is really upset by outsourcing and challenges of finding jobs in the US. Personally, my position is that bitching about outsourcing doesn't help anyone. Globalization is a reality and if you don't like it, you will gain nothing. The best thing to do is to understand it, analyze how it affects you, and then react. We really are in the "survival of the fittest" situation now. Here is the comment from someone who calls himself "swazendo."

"We will actually be competing with folks in India for jobs -

I have been competing with folks in India for jobs. I don\'t know how you get paid, but, how long could you compete against someone who will cost your employer 1/5th of what you currently get paid? Please explain exactly what you would do, realistically.

And while it will be painful for some, in the long run, we will learn to do what creates the highest value for our businesses.

Take a course in macro economics -- in the long run we're all dead and it is already painful not for just some but for many -- look at unemployment and you just watch happens in the future to this country. It's easy for you to comment away on this stuff but until you jump in the pool and experience first hand what "painful" is (compete at 1/5th the wage) , your comments are as meaningful as teats on a bored pig."