Should I have a child with my married boyfriend?

Cindy writes, "I have read all the the advice you have given to everyone about dating married men.  I am 24 years old and I have an affair with a married man.  We have been together almost 6 years.  Since his wife has not been able to get pregnant, he really wants to father a child and I am happy to do so.  I love him so much, and I am willing to give him a child but the problem is his wife does not want to divorce him nor would she agree to me carrying a child.  We both have fought with everyone to carry on this beautiful relationship and even my parents do not want him to be with me.  I have essentially fought with my whole family just to be with him.  What can I do?  Please help me."

Love child is generally not appreciated

If he loves you as much as you do, he should divorce his wife and then marry you, without support of his and your family, if that is what it comes to.  I am expecting, though, that once you two get married your family will support you.  Right now your parents are correct in not wanting him because he is a married man and you have no future with him that way.

While it may disappoint you, I also support his wife's reluctance to let him have a child with you.  It is one thing to use an egg from a donor or employ a surrogate mother but you are his extramarital lover.  There is no guarantee that a woman will be able to give a child to every man and while she may try IUI, IVF and other fertility treatments, it is unfair to leave a woman just because she did not get pregnant.

So as far as you are concerned, it is time for you to ask your boyfriend to immediately divorce his wife and marry you.  If he does not do that right away, it simply means that he has no interest in marrying you and is merely taking advantage of you.