Is penis related to pregnancy?

Drake writes, "What is the effect of size while making love?  Will I be able to make my wife pregnant even if the size is very small?"

Size and pleasure

Despite all the myth and misinformation, it is not the size that matters but what you do with its and all other body parts when it comes to satisfying a woman.  I know women who have told me that men with very tiny organs gave them great orgasms and men with huge ones did not know what to do with it.  Generally speaking even the smallest size can please a woman.  So go out there and do what you can with it and your hands, mouth and tongue and stop fretting about the size, the myth for which has been created by quacks, crooks, and spammers to sell you snake oil.

Size and pregnancy

The same is true for making babies.  If the woman is fertile and healthy and you can engage in normal lovemaking, she should get pregnant.  Having said that, if you have been trying to make your wife pregnant for 12 months and have not succeeded, then it is time to meet with a fertility specialist.  It may have nothing to do with your organ size but there are so many other things inside a woman's body that could not be working normally.  For men, it is not the size that is important for pregnancy, but sperm count, sperm quality and motility that are important and these can be checked with a simple test.

Should I have a child with my married boyfriend?

Cindy writes, "I have read all the the advice you have given to everyone about dating married men.  I am 24 years old and I have an affair with a married man.  We have been together almost 6 years.  Since his wife has not been able to get pregnant, he really wants to father a child and I am happy to do so.  I love him so much, and I am willing to give him a child but the problem is his wife does not want to divorce him nor would she agree to me carrying a child.  We both have fought with everyone to carry on this beautiful relationship and even my parents do not want him to be with me.  I have essentially fought with my whole family just to be with him.  What can I do?  Please help me."

Love child is generally not appreciated

If he loves you as much as you do, he should divorce his wife and then marry you, without support of his and your family, if that is what it comes to.  I am expecting, though, that once you two get married your family will support you.  Right now your parents are correct in not wanting him because he is a married man and you have no future with him that way.

While it may disappoint you, I also support his wife's reluctance to let him have a child with you.  It is one thing to use an egg from a donor or employ a surrogate mother but you are his extramarital lover.  There is no guarantee that a woman will be able to give a child to every man and while she may try IUI, IVF and other fertility treatments, it is unfair to leave a woman just because she did not get pregnant.

So as far as you are concerned, it is time for you to ask your boyfriend to immediately divorce his wife and marry you.  If he does not do that right away, it simply means that he has no interest in marrying you and is merely taking advantage of you.

My younger boyfriend wants kids but I don't

Hannah writes, "I am a divorced 38 years old dating a 30 year old guy.  I have two teenager daughters.  We're totally in love, he doesn't care about our ages, and he already asked me if I want to have more kids.  My 16 year old daughter doesn't like the idea.  I am also not sure if I am prepared to go through another pregnancy and raise a child.  He says that I look younger and would do just fine as a mom.  My friends believe he is too young for me, but I have to say that he is more mature than a 40 year old.  I do not want to scare him, but I think after 5 month I have to be clear.  Should I ask him about his plan?" 

Let me deal with each issue one at a time:

1. All kids feel a little jealous when a sibling comes and the situation gets a little more complicated when the kids are teens.  They are grown up enough to realize how their lives will be complicated and will change as a result of their mom getting married and then having a kid.  While they may be young enough not to be afraid for no reason and as an adult you can convince them, you still have to assess what it will mean for your relationship with your daughters.
2. Doctors consider someone at your age of advanced maternal age.  While women do get pregnant and have healthy babies, many women face huge challenges getting pregnant and sometimes have babies with genetic disorders.  Others get pregnant through in vitro fertilization or using donor eggs and these procedures can be expensive and emotionally hard of many families.  Many such procedures result in multiple births.  In other words, you two have to consider what happens if you don't get pregnant naturally.
3. Marriage of a couple means a few years of fun without any responsibilities.  In case you two want a kid, your doctor will probably advise you to start NOW.  That means that instead of building a relationship with a new husband and trying to integrate him into your family, you will be dealing with a newborn.
4. The age gap between you two is just 8 years and it is insignificant compared to other emails that I have been receiving where the age gap is as high as 25-30 years, in other words, people are marrying someone old enough to be a parent or child.  So I wouldn't worry too much about what the friends think as long as you two have a great relationship.  I totally agree with you that I have seen 30 year olds with the maturity of a 50 year old and also seen 30 year olds that literally seem like teenagers.  In the end it is the emotional maturity that matters rather than age and as cheesy as it may sound, age is only a number.  If this is the right man for you, then, he is the best man on the planet for you, regardless of what your friends think.

My suggestion would be that you first think through what you want, talk to your daughters, and then present the options to your boyfriend.  It is understandable why he may want a kid of his own, but if that is not what you and your daughters want, then it is best that he be allowed to move on and find a woman that will gladly give him a child.

Did Jennifer Lopez have IVF for her twins?

Whenever a Hollywood celebrity gets pregnant in her advanced age the speculation is always rife that she may have had assisted reproductive therapy (ART) like IUI, IVF, donor eggs, or in case that she simply cannot get pregnant on her own, use of a surrogate mother.

That is why when Jennifer Lopez became pregnant with twins Max and Emme (multiple births are more common when in vitro fertilization is used), a lot of people suspected that fertility treatments were used.  J Lo is now denying that.  She says that when it comes to family and relationships, she is quite traditional.  She implies that trying to get pregnant artificially may be against the wishes of God, because if you cannot get pregnant naturally, then, maybe God did not want you to be a mother. 

She says, "...I also believe in God and I have a lot of faith in that, so I just felt like you don't mess with things like that. And I guess deep down I really felt like either this is not going to happen for me or it is. And if it is, it will. And if it's not, it's not going to."

Since the ethics of fertility treatments are still evolving, a lot of parents still struggle to make peace with procedures like donor eggs, surrogate mothers, and IVF in which many embryos are often destroyed.