How to avoid becoming pregnant?

Cindy writes, "My boyfriend seems to not be able to stop touching me. We have sex all the time and he seems to want more and more. He always seduces me and gets me into bed. Please help me. I try talking to him but we always end up making love. I have become pregnant six times but aborted each time because he does not have time or money to support a child."

I think there is nothing wrong with having sexual desire for your partner with whom you are in love, but if you do not want to get pregnant, you have to use birth control. You can go on the birth control pill and that way you will not become pregnant. If that is not possible, condoms are an alternative. In case you are completely caught by surprise, then, you can try plan B, a pill that stops an embryo from implanting itself in the womb in case fertilization does happen.

I typically do not like to raise ethical and moral questions related to abortion (I leave that to you and your partner), but do want to raise health issues. Making the body go through pregnancy and then aborting it causes health complications due to hormonal imbalance. The body also goes through enormous stress each time you get pregnant or have an abortion.

Pregnant without sex

I try to answer every question I get and while I had heard that there is all kinds of wrong information out there, for instance, that a girl can pregnant by just kissing, I did not expect that I will get a question like that.

Nanda from India writes, "I am in a relationship for the past two years. My partner and I get physical with each other but not regularly, but there is no intercourse. My menstrual periods have always been irregular. The last one was three months ago. I was expecting my period this month but I still do not have any signs. During this time my boyfriend and I did get physical but we were fully dressed and there was no ejaculation. Is there any chance of me getting pregnant? Please help; I am very stressed out over this."

There is no way you could be pregnant.

Just for your information, pregnancy is not easy as you think. In order for a woman to get pregnant, a man has to ejaculate inside her vagina during that perfect moment in her ovulation cycle (which can sometimes be as short as 1-2 days in a month). Still then, depending on the age of the woman, the probability is just about 10%.

I am not encouraging you to have sex without protection but just sharing information that a lot of things have to go right before a woman can get pregnant. In your case, since there was no sperm released inside, there is nothing to worry.

Regarding your infrequent periods, you must immediately see a doctor. It is not a good health sign and your doctor can look into it and prescribe medication.

And in the meantime, as far as your partner is concerned, it is OK to please each other the way you have been doing. In case you want him inside you, then I strongly recommend that you use a condom or some other birth control option.