Katherine Heigl mom without pregnancy

Gossip magazines always like to speculate when a Hollywood celebrity is pregnant. Even if she is spotted shopping for a gift, they will immediately start suggesting that a baby is on its way.

Now Katherine Heigl, who got married to Josh Kelly is choosing to have a baby but she is adopting. I am not sure if she has fertility issues or if she or her husband have already tried options like IUI, IVF, or surrogate mom, but she has adopted a baby girl from South Korea called Nayleigh (or Leigh).

It may be interesting to mention that previously Heigl told USA Today that, "I am done with the whole idea of having my own children. It doesn't seem like fun. I don't think it's necessary to go through all of that." If that is the case, considering how over-populated the planet is, this is the greenest way to become a parent. Plus, she need not worry about pregnancy weight loss or stretch marks or breastfeeding or sagging breasts.

Michelle Stafford parent through surrogate mother

As I have written before, by the time a woman is 40, her fertility has dropped to a point that it is highly unlikely that she can deliver a living, healthy, normal baby. Yes, some women do that but the number is in very low single digits. Others can try techniques like IUI or IVF but they are not much help. A smarter thing to do is to what Celine Dion did who froze her embryos a long time ago and then became pregnant with it.

If you have failed with these attempts (and burned thousands of dollars in case your insurance does not cover these procedures) then your next option is to use donor eggs, in which case, the real mother is someone else but a woman can still feel connected to the baby since she will be carrying it. These procedures are prohibitively expensive in most of the Western world but in countries like Czech Republic or Ukraine, poor and desperate women will sell their eggs for a very low price. The probability improves but if this does not work, another option is to use a surrogate mother, a procedure used by Ricky Martin, Sarah Jessica Parker, Marissa Jaret Winokur, and Clay Aiken. In other words, hire a woman to carry a man's child using the surrogate's or donor's eggs. This procedure can cost tens of thousands of dollars and surrogate moms are not lining up for the job.

We can now add another name to the list of women who are becoming "moms" with the help of surrogates: Michelle Stafford, who at 43, tried all of the above, but failed. Interestingly, in her case, since she is single mom by choice, both the sperm and egg are from donors and she will simply be raising the child. This option is akin to paying someone for adopting their baby.

Sarah Jessica Parker surrogate twins

I can understand why gays like Ricky Martin or Clay Aiken would use a surrogate to become parents.

Women that choose to be single moms or lesbians need not use surrogates if they can become moms themselves.

I can understand if Marissa Jaret Winokur used a surrogate since she was incapable of carrying a baby herself. For the same reason it would be understandable if Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick were a childless couple and SJP had problem conceiving and carrying a baby, but they already have a child.

Therefore, their choice to use a surrogate for their twins conceived by IVF at such a late stage in their life is simply disgusting. Does it mean that the rich can do anything they want because they have the money? Can they use other women as babymakers because they can? If they loved kids so much, they could have adopted from an orphanage.