How to find out if I am a virgin?

India writes, "Due to a great error in judgment on my part, I made love to a man, and even though, he did not go all the way in, I think he ejaculated inside me. He told me to stand up straight after the intercourse so that the semen will kind of flow out due to gravity. I want to be sure I am not carrying his baby (we didn't use protection when he went in. I was fertile that day (checking my fertility again); I think it was the day after my ovulation and I am not on the pill since I have never had the use for it (I am not sexually active). Could I still be a virgin?"

Regarding your pregnancy, a pregnancy test kit at home or a blood test in any clinic can confirm if you are pregnant. If so, obviously, you are not a virgin.

Now if you did not become pregnant, then, it is hard to say. Generally speaking, it is understood that a girl is not virgin after the hymen (a membrane inside the vagina) breaks. However, girls who play sports or ride horses/bikes or even those who might fall down in the bathroom, might have a ruptured membrane. Only a medical test can determine if the hymen is still intact.

Now based on this, I cannot tell you for sure. A doctor has to examine you to confirm it.

Am I still a virgin?

Candice writes, "I am 20 years old and until I met this older man, I had never been physically intimate with a man. Though I told him I did not wan to have sex, but a week ago, we were playing and he went half way inside me. There was no rupturing, I mean no blood but not everyone gets blood. Also no pain except a slight feeling of inconvenience that was over in about 30 minutes. I am not sure any more if I am still a virgin. Please can you tell if I could still be a virgin? My lover even called me later and said he is not even sure if I was a virgin or not. I feel awful and have broken up with this man.

If you are virgin or not, it is very hard to say. Blood does not always come out during sex for the first time. Also, it is not necessarily painful. Most likely you are still a virgin but only a doctor can say that after examining you.

The reason your lover is telling you that you were not a virgin is because he wants to manipulate you by saying so. If he can convince you that your body is not that of a virgin any way, he will find it easier to convince you to have sex with him.

So just relax, take a deep breath, don't worry about virginity, and get rid of this man. Not all men expect you to be a virgin on wedding night. You can also have hymen repair surgery or fake virginity by using a fake hymen to make your husband believe that you are a virgin.