the fact that shiatsu massages are so common in Japan (and now all over
the world) and
massage being an integral part of Japanese couples'
lives (Related link: Massage
options for couples), we had earlier highlighted how to give a massage to your
partner. However, in response
to our article on massages, women
wrote highlighting two major problems:
man relaxes to a point that he falls asleep.
tickling can spoil everything for certain men.
people associate a massage with
Therefore, if a person is exhausted, a massage is likely to induce
sleep. Therefore, a
massage is a bad idea when the man is tired.
Reserve this type of massages to those occasions when you are certain that the man
is not exhausted.
writes, “I am very good at massages but its hard to do, because he is
tense from working out and I just cannot get past the ticklish areas.
I heard baby oil may work, but apparently it does not work.”
Team, whom we consulted for this question, has the following advice:
is no need to buy any special oils. A high quality, natural
ingredients based oil is all you need.
areas on the body are unique to each individual. Some people have
wider areas and/or more sensitive than others but most individuals
will have some reaction to touching, especially when touched by
someone you are intimate with. Not much is known about human tickling
except that tickling gets amplified when it is unexpected, even from
people we know. First you
have to make sure that you clearly understand your partner's sensitive
areas and he has to help you know these. Avoid them to the extent
possible. The next step is to avoid giving massages for first few
months on bare skin. Put a very light, preferably fine Egyptian cotton
or muslin sheet and massage on top of the sheet. This will avoid
skin-to-skin contact and, over a period of time, make him feel
comfortable with your touch. Thirdly, take the element of surprise out
(which is largely responsible for tickling) - tell him what area you
are going to touch as you massage him. For example, say something like
"Now I am going to massage the back of your neck" so that he
know what to expect. And then if you move to the shoulders, say so.
the first few times, give him health massages. Tell him that these
will be therapeutic massages rather than something else.
Japanese typically take a long, hot bath before going to bed.
Soaking in hot water helps in many ways, including making the
skin less sensitive for a short while.
Thus, taking a hot bath (or even a shower) is probably a good
idea prior to the massage.
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