about Japanese women
to date a Japanese?
By Jeff Coates
I am a
Canadian man and was teaching in the Tokyo area for a year. I met Rumiko
towards the end of my stay there. While I only have one experience to
share, it does help in dispelling some of the
myths about Japanese women
that are widely prevalent. Hopefully, my account
will point to exceptions that exist and how Japanese women may not really
be the stereotypes that we are made to believe. (Related
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Myth #1: Japanese women are shy
When I met
Rumiko through an online ad, I
found her to be very conservative, professional, and proper Ė everything
one would think a professional salaried woman working in Tokyo would
espouse. However, when it came to making the first move, Rumiko surprised
me. She took out her business card, presented it to me, and said rather
forcefully, ďCall meĒ. Intrigued, I e-mailed her and she immediately
invited me out to dinner with her and a friend. At dinner she presented me
with a small gift. I later found out that this was her first sign of
affection for me.
days afterwards, I e-mailed her again and she ended up asking me if I
wanted to skip town for a day during the weekend to
sightsee. I said yes
and she made arrangements. That day out, sitting on the floor, while
drinking tea, she made her first physical move. I noticed that she ever so
slightly moved one of her cute little feet towards my hand so that they
touched ever so slightly.
days later I e-mailed her again and asked her if she wanted to get out of
town again for a day the following weekend. Not only did she say yes, she
told me she was looking forward to getting in to a co-ed public bath with
me! That day, although we never did make it to the public bath, she had no
hesitation taking my hand (for the day!), whispering sweet-nothings in my
ear, holding me, resting her head on my shoulder, and touching my legs.
Another sign of affection: another gift.
later she called and said she wanted to spend the day together. Again, we
spent the day hand-in-hand. A week later she made the ultimate move: she
called and asked if she could come over and spend the night with me.
Myth #2: Japanese women are submissive
There is a stereotype
of Asian women as being submissive. Without defining the word, I can only
counter that. Indeed if this is the case, then it is only relative to
western women. I didnít know what to expect when Rumiko came over to my
place, but I thought that I would be the one leading and commencing
proceedings. However, as I was about to, Rumiko excused herself. She went
to the restroom to
wash up and change. Itís the first time that a woman
that Iíve been with and has been at my place has changed prior to coming
to bed. She clearly wanted to get into something she was comfortable in
and wanted to be in control of the initial dress
Myth #3: Japanese women have bad teeth
While, yes, from a
dental perspective, many Japanese women leave a little something to be
desired in their teeth and mouths; they certainly do make up for it in
bed. From the moment my lips met hers, I was amazed at her ability to
kiss. The expert-like use of her tongue had me spinning. And when she
brought that expertise down for oral adventure, she again worked wonders.
The partnered use of her lips, tongue and teeth certainly lead to one very
long and pleasurable night!
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Myth #4: Japanese women are flat-chested
yes, most women in Japan are relatively small, but itís what they can do
with what is there that counts. First off, Rumiko, knew how to wear her
bra so as to exaggerate her cleavage and
Secondly, she knew how to position herself so as to make them
look more full: usually sitting up, leaning over me.
Myth #5: Japanese women are always orderly
Once in bed, Rumiko
lost the pragmatism that I had come to expect of all Japanese Ė at all
times. She lost all inhibitions to any excuse Ė and I mean any and all!
She went from the professional conservative to giggling and
Myth #5B: Japanese women have nothing up their
I awoke at one point
that night to find a gorgeous, smiling Rumiko riding me, again without
having placed protection. I simply enjoyed. During that little
wake-up surprise, Rumiko told me that she had my answer. My quizzical look
revealed from her that I had asked her age days back. She told me that she
was 30. That coupled with the fact of being with a woman
more than 5 years older than me, yet one who looked years younger, turned
me on and soon followed!
Myth #6: Japanese women are innocent
We all know that looks
are deceiving and that certainly holds true in Japan. The most
conservative women can turn out to be some of the wildest, and vice versa.
Despite Rumikoís conservative nature, our wild night notwithstanding, I
have found it so very easy to keep in touch with her, despite
having left Japan. She is open to my sending her fantasies and
many a time, she responds in kind!
While its unlikely
Iíll see Rumiko again and despite the fact that we were together for a
rather short time, she certainly has left an impact on me. I learned a lot
and she is one very strong memory that keeps Japan fresh in my mind.
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