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 Vivian writes,
"I have a
great
husband otherwise but
he is not romantic. I have
nothing else to complain about but every time I hear about
romantic boyfriends and husbands of my friends or
watch movies, somewhere in my heart, I feel bad. I
have given hints to him but nothing has changed. I
do not want to make a big deal about it but is there
anything that I can do make him appreciate the
beauty
of romance. Any suggestions for me?" |
You are a
lucky woman, and in today's world, you should not have
much to complain. Just ask all those
wives of "too-romantic" men who
share
their love with too many women at the same time.
Having said that, it is important to understand that there
is nothing wrong with your husband, and while it is
possible to change him somewhat, it will take time.
Men typically learn their social skills from their father
or elder brother and if they have not had these
opportunities, they may not do so well in this area.
For many men like your
husband, love implies being their
for you and providing you
physical,
financial, and emotional security.
How to make your
man romantic?
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Start by
setting an example. Even if he does not
appreciate it in the beginning, you must still
do what you find romantic. For instance,
if you like
romantic meals, make sure that you
decorate the dining area, light candles, and
play the right music. You can do the
same in the
bedroom.
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Buy
romantic gifts for him. Yeah, it is
nice to buy someone a thesaurus if he likes to
do crossword puzzles but when you buy a
romantic music collection, you are also
sending another message.
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Respond
positively to things that he does for you.
When he is providing for you and stands there
for you in time of need, appreciate him.
Eventually, he will understand your emotions
and will respond.
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