I am starting to realize now that people dating someone who is much older/younger than them are no longer just celebrities or strange folks. They are people like you and I - regular folks that are starting to better appreciate the new realities that dating/relationships are about finding that intimate bond between two people rather than thinking of a partner as someone who they will marry, have a family, and live happily thereafter.
So I have selected two emails that I have received during last couple of weeks and they demonstrate that these folks are no longer shy about admitting that they love someone who is of a different generation and have no hesitation whatsoever in telling the world that they found happiness a little differently. Lorraine, a 43-year old who has been dating a 25 year old man for four months now says, " It is one of the most satisfying relationships I have ever had. I am able to be me, all facets of me without fear of threatening him. He's terrific, supportive, passionate and very loving. I never thought I'd be in this situation but hey who knows where love grows." And her guy must be like Robin who is only 23 but dating a 38-year old. He tells me, "We have so much in common that it is scary. Although, I know this relationship will most likely not result in marriage, I still wonder if I am damaging myself by now holding other men my own age to a much higher standard."
Or in other words, we seem to have a trend now: Date someone you like and forget the age. Another major indicator of a trend is the fact that there are businesses out there that are serving these people. A large number of online dating websites allow you to find someone in a totally different age group if that is what you want but most of the emails that I get are from those people who just happened to run into someone who was in a different age group but was otherwise a great partner.
Tips on dating a mature or younger person
- Get rid of all obsolete ideas that your partner has to be around your age or even belong to the same generation.
- Focus on the person rather than the age.
- Experience matters in life. So if you are mature, share it with the younger one. And if you are young, do not be shy to take advantage of the mature person by being a good student and learning from her/him.
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