Jealousy is not good for a relationship
Margaret in Taos, New Mexico, writes, " am ridiculously jealous. I love my boyfriend, but my jealousy and insecurity is destroying our relationship. Even when he is talking to wives of his friends, I get jealous and start to suspect all kinds of things. I watch his eyes whenever we are in public and if he sees another woman even casually, I get terrified that he is not attracted to me. What can I do?"
Love starts with you. If you have insecurity problems, that may be reflected in your jealousy. What are you insecure about? Do you think your man or any other man cannot love you or love you enough? Do you feel you are not as attractive and worthy as other women? Take a moment and think why are you jealous, what are you afraid of? Write it down.
Now check the list and think rationally. Are your fears real? If you think you are not as pretty, you have two choices: either accept yourself as you are now, or improve yourself. But the bottom line is you have to like yourself, you have to love yourself, you have to be the friend you would like to have, and believe me, it is easy if you get to know yourself better and try to always become better. (Related article: Self esteem issues among women)
Tips to develop trust
Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. It means trust in yourself and trust in others, in particular, the ones closest to you. You have to trust that you are a loving, attractive woman with a lot to offer and your guy is lucky he has you.
Trust comes from positive thinking. Are you a positive thinker? Check your thoughts frequently; keep a score for a week or so. Every time you catch yourself thinking negatives, write it down. Every time you are talking negative about yourself write it down. If you are a negative thinker, you will walk in the world thinking negatively of others; you will not be able to trust and you will live in fear and stress.
You may have learned not to trust in the past through painful experiences, but it does not help to distrust. On the other hand, it is very negative and detrimental to your health and happiness. If you are a negative thinker, try to observe yourself and every time you think negatively, try to think in positive terms. You are essentially retraining your mind. It will take time and effort, but it will be very good for you in the long run.
When you feel jealous, think: I am worthy of his love and he knows it and he loves me. And if for any reason he does not appreciate it, there is nothing to worry about it. Life is about moving on. "There is a guy for me and I am going to find him. I only want the best man for me."
You have to devote time to get to know yourself and to have goals and dreams about your relationship. When you are happy as a person and secure as a woman you will be a better lover.
Love is based on many things and relationships on many more. Relationships are work and if you are not willing to put in that work, you have to be really lucky to have a long-term successful relationship.
Recommended article: Jealousy among women
Love starts with you. If you have insecurity problems, that may be reflected in your jealousy. What are you insecure about? Do you think your man or any other man cannot love you or love you enough? Do you feel you are not as attractive and worthy as other women? Take a moment and think why are you jealous, what are you afraid of? Write it down.
Now check the list and think rationally. Are your fears real? If you think you are not as pretty, you have two choices: either accept yourself as you are now, or improve yourself. But the bottom line is you have to like yourself, you have to love yourself, you have to be the friend you would like to have, and believe me, it is easy if you get to know yourself better and try to always become better. (Related article: Self esteem issues among women)
Tips to develop trust
Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. It means trust in yourself and trust in others, in particular, the ones closest to you. You have to trust that you are a loving, attractive woman with a lot to offer and your guy is lucky he has you.
Trust comes from positive thinking. Are you a positive thinker? Check your thoughts frequently; keep a score for a week or so. Every time you catch yourself thinking negatives, write it down. Every time you are talking negative about yourself write it down. If you are a negative thinker, you will walk in the world thinking negatively of others; you will not be able to trust and you will live in fear and stress.
You may have learned not to trust in the past through painful experiences, but it does not help to distrust. On the other hand, it is very negative and detrimental to your health and happiness. If you are a negative thinker, try to observe yourself and every time you think negatively, try to think in positive terms. You are essentially retraining your mind. It will take time and effort, but it will be very good for you in the long run.
When you feel jealous, think: I am worthy of his love and he knows it and he loves me. And if for any reason he does not appreciate it, there is nothing to worry about it. Life is about moving on. "There is a guy for me and I am going to find him. I only want the best man for me."
You have to devote time to get to know yourself and to have goals and dreams about your relationship. When you are happy as a person and secure as a woman you will be a better lover.
Love is based on many things and relationships on many more. Relationships are work and if you are not willing to put in that work, you have to be really lucky to have a long-term successful relationship.
Recommended article: Jealousy among women
posted by eCreativa Media @ 12/09/2004 03:16:00 PM
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