There is no other factor responsible for expediting aging than stress, worry, and pain/suffering. Can we avoid it altogether? Not really. But what we can do is to keep it at the minimal level by having a positive attitude and thinking of life as an adventure. (Related article: How to prevent aging?)
Let us take a look at Carol's case who went through several years of traumatic experiences all at the same time. Almost all of them related to a bad marriage. Now that the divorce is over, she wants to move on with her life and she is finding it difficult to do it. As I have been saying all along, divorce can be extremity hard on women (and children). Most men handle it fairly well, though.
Carol says, "I have been trying to find a job as a dental assistant and not having much luck. I would like to go to dental school later on and become a dentist, but because I have not been able to find a job as an assistant, I wonder if people think that I'm just too old or not very bright. Sometimes I feel ready to give up. I have also wondered if having some kind of plastic/cosmetic surgery would help me look younger and give me an edge to get into a career that I have a passion for. I am 46 years old. I was very sick for a number of years and a doctor put me on steroids. I have about 65 lbs. more to lose. Other than that I am in relatively good health. I also tend to look at the way that life has gone and think that perhaps I am not deserving of success. I think that is ridiculous as I write it, but that is something that I feel. Do you think that plastic surgery is something that would give me an edge? Do you think that I would feel better if I had it? Would it make a difference?"
Carol's question is very typical. A lot of women think that plastic surgery will somehow solve their problems. There is no doubt that plastic surgery can produce remarkable improvements in how your body looks and raise your self esteem and confidence, but in Carol's case, here are a few other things to consider before sitting down with a plastic surgeon for consultation:
- When we are in a long-term, committed relationship, we often take it for granted. Remember how you took care of yourself to look your best when you were dating? The stress of kids, family (and in Carol's case, a divorce) can "age" you further very quickly, particularly if you do not take care of yourself. So before you consider plastic surgery, read this article on how to look younger after 40.
- You may also want to watch two television programs that I like - "Ten Years Younger" (Discovery channel) and Mini Makeovers (part of the Extreme Makeovers program on ABC). What I am trying to say is that if you follow the advice in the article and learn a few tricks from the TV programs and make some minor changes, you will not only look better and younger, you will also feel good about yourself. (Related article: Makeovers for women after 40)
- There is no substitute to exercising and dieting to lose weight. And 65 lbs is quite a lot of weight to lose, but if you take small steps, you will see the difference. Set small goals and don't stop till you are where you want to be. And have fun on the way to losing weight.
- Once your weight is gone, you will have extra skin on your body. And that is a perfect time to evaluate if you should have plastic surgery, particularly a body contouring procedure. At that time, it is also a good idea to look at liposuction or tummy tuck as possible solutions to hard-to-get-rid-off fat on the tummy and thighs. In other words, first try to do your very best through diet and exercise and then look at plastic surgery. Not only will you get a better looking body at that time, you will also become a new person.
- And to improve your self esteem and build a positive body image, read a few good books, join a support group, make some new friends, and smile more often.