Letter from a reader
While conducting an Internet search on “beauty and fitness,” I happened upon your website. Within fifteen minutes of browsing it, I discovered a vast collection of pages offering support for women with small breasts. There were style tips, stories from women who found love and success despite being flat-chested, FAQs, and an entire book dedicated to coping with small breasts! Quite frankly, I have never seen anything more ridiculous and laughable in my entire life.
I have seen support pages and forums for cancer victims, Hurricane Katrina survivors, and families suffering the loss of a child. Their existence does not surprise me. But support for flat-chested women?! Having small breasts is not traumatic, humiliating, or debilitating — nor is it even unsightly! Take it from me; I am a 34 A!
In all honesty, it pains me to think that the media has put so much undue pressure on today’s girls and women that there is now online support for those who do not meet the ludicrous physical standards of, say, a Playboy centerfold model. No one — male or female — should be made to feel ugly or inadequate because of something he or she cannot control. But then again, I am shocked that so many people actually have such low self-esteem. It’s amazing and disturbing to me that such a large number of women have allowed themselves to feel unattractive simply due to the fact that they lack a bit of breast tissue!
I think everyone would agree that puberty is the most difficult emotional stage in life; teenagers are aften full of angst and self-doubt. I am sixteen years old; daily, I experience my own fair share of stress and societal pressure. But never, never in my life have I worried about my breast size, nor has it even occurred to me to feel depressed about the fact that I am what one might call “flat-chested.” I have never felt the desire to stuff my bra or get breast implants. The idea that I might not be successful or have a satisfying love life because of my bra size – It’s never even crossed my mind.
The fact is that I am a beautiful and extraordinary girl. I also happen to be a small-chested one, and I have never felt incomplete or underdeveloped because of it. I am an honors student, excelling in every class. I maintain a 4.0 grade-point average with hardly any struggle. I have dozens of wonderful friends whom I trust wholeheartedly. I am an exemplary flutist, pianist, and violinist, and have been accepted into the prestigious pointe ballet course at the High School for the Performing and Visual Arts three times now. I come from a loving and close-knit family. I have beautiful blonde hair, immaculate teeth, gorgeous red lips, and a slim size-0 waist (of which all my friends are quite envious). I am constantly receiving compliments concerning my appearance, sometimes from complete strangers! Everyone knows I have a relatively flat chest, since I make no attempt to camouflage it. They also know — just as I do — that I am lovely anyway, in addition to being extremely intelligent and talented. What have I to complain about?
Once, an old friend of mine made a comment about my chest and “what little I have.” I would have retorted, but I paused before doing so and assessed the situation. The girl who said this is somewhat overweight, has trouble with her grades, and recently dropped out of dance school because she always felt outshone and outperformed by everyone else and thought she looked fat in the outfits we wore. I realized that I wasn’t jealous of her just because she had boobs, and I kept my mouth shut. I knew that she’d trade places with me any day if she could. Another time, my ex-boyfriend mocked my small breasts during a drunken fit of his. My point? I, too, have been ridiculed — but I realize that people who bother to say such things are either very insecure or are the dregs of the earth. I know that I am pretty and talented and that any boy would be lucky to have me. I know that I excel in many areas and that most of the time, people are envious of my accomplishments. I am proud of who I am and what I look like — me, the flat-chested ballerina.
My advice to other small-breasted girls and women out there: Get over it, plain and simple. What’s to gain from having bigger breasts? Attention from men? That kind of attention is damaging and superficial. The ability to “fill out” a low-cut dress or a bikini? I have received nothing but compliments on the way I look in beachwear and close-fitting formals, so stay fit and healthy and you”ll look wonderful in both — just as I do. Do you aspire to model for Playboy? Go for it; there are more successful small-chested models than you might think. Amanda Rushing (36 A) is a Playboy favorite. Chloe (34 A) is an infamous porn star that many guys I know are unabashedly obsessed with. Simply wanting to look more attractive? Confidence is the most amazing beautifier — and best of all, it’s free.
If you have small breasts, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Life is so wonderful, and constant bouts of self-pity should not keep you from enjoying it. Every woman is a treasure; once you begin to cherish yourself and your body, the world will realize how precious you are — inside and out.
“People used to laugh at me and point at me in the store. Some people would even scream and run away from me. I felt like I was a monster. But now I’m glad to be alive. I feel great — I feel beautiful!” said Lexie Hiett, a 5-year-old girl whose face was destroyed by a 16-pound tumor (recently removed). She has spent the majority of her life in a hospital bed, and she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen.