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Massages
for couples
How
to relax your partner
By
Tim Rassiter, the author of Drive your man wild
As we’ve said
many times in our book, TENSION IS A PASSION KILLER!
The following technique is one of the most powerful
ways to relax your man and get him “in the mood”.
The same goes for you.
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Trade massages (not
both of you on the same night).
Start with him. Our bodies build up tension that we are not even aware of.
Sometimes we end up carrying years of stress around
with us.
(Related article: Massage
options for couples)
Get a
good book on
massage (preferably one for couples, and learn the techniques
together. When
you massage him, you will be amazed at his reactions as
you release years of built up tension.
He may jerk, shudder, and moan.
If you’re
good….he’ll really be moaning before you know it!
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 A good massage with
soft music and candles will drive any man wild in
short order. Another
way to
learn massage is to treat yourself to a few from
different therapists.
You’ll pick up the technique quickly this way.
Until you find the
right book or therapist, here are some tips:
Have him lay on his stomach.
Start with his feet, massaging each toe
individually, and slowly work your way up his body. Stay away from his privates.
Give extra attention to this upper-back, shoulders,
and neck.
Give the same
attention to his hands, finger by finger.
Two really good pressure points are found in the
soft flesh between the thumb and first finger….both
sides. The
center of the palm is another good spot.
As you get familiar with your man’s body,
you’ll naturally come to know his pressure points (as he
will learn to know yours).
Use the heels of your
hands, fingers, and thumbs.
Combine light massage with deep pressure, applied
for longer periods of time. 
Ask him to tell you if you are pushing too hard, by
all means….I repeat….use some real pressure.
As you get to know his body better, you’ll learn
to sense the presence of “knots”…areas of built-up
tension. Don’t
forget the
head and scalp. (Note: What to do
if your hands get tired? This is a very common
problem for those that have not done a massage ever, or do
not work with their hands much. The answer is
below*.)
Then, work your way
back down. Now it’s time for a little tease. Softly caress his inner thighs working up towards his
privates until you can feel their warmth…but still
don’t touch.
Then give him a nice
hard smack on the butt, and have him roll over.
Repeat the process, only this time you can guess
how it ends.
Use your
imagination!
*Here are a few things that you can do:
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Give a softer massage, or what is known as a touch massage. May not be so relaxing if someone is tired and has muscle pain but you will get used to working with your hands and fingers and develop your strength over time.
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Are you using a
massage oil? Please do. It will make it easier for you to work your way in to the muscles and make your hands less tired.
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Use a
massager. While he will miss your hands, you will not be tired at all.
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