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Edward
writes, "There's a
girl
in my neighborhood a couple doors down
who always gives me a
big smile, which
I always return, and she seems interested. I just don't
know how to approach her. I only see her at her front
door when she's with a friend and when I walk
past her house I can see straight into her
kitchen, but
I haven't caught her eye while she's been inside. What
should I do? I'd like to just go knock and
introduce myself, but wouldn't that be weird?"
Hitting on a woman is all about
finding an excuse even if it is a lame one
The key to approaching a woman is
finding an excuse. Of
course, the really bold ones simply
walk
up to a woman and
tell her exactly what they want (I have
heard and seen cases where a guy will simply
tell a girl
that he likes her, is
attracted to her, and is
asking
her out -- some women get shocked and say no
but surprisingly enough most
girls are flattered and
accept it). As you rightly said, it is risky course
because it could create that awkwardness for the
two of you forever in case you totally misread her
behavior and instead of being
interested in you
romantically, she is merely being friendly to a
neighbor.
In case you do not want to
take the bold approach, then
just find
an excuse to knock on her door to at least
have a
conversation. You have not told me the exact set
of circumstances, but for example, you could bring some
vegetables from your garden saying that you have way too
many and before they go bad you are sharing
them with neighbors. What I want you to do is look at
your circumstances and find an excuse to talk to her
privately and for at least some time. Going
back to the vegetables example, at the end you could
even casually mention that you are planning to
grill
them for
dinner and if she would like to come for a
bite she is welcome. Even if she cannot for whatever
reason, you will now "know" each other and it would be
much easier to say hello next time or invite
her to join you at the
pool or ask her about the
problems with mail delivery. |
