Breaking up with a married man

How to move on and heal the heart?

Summary: Neela broke up with her married boyfriend after she found out that he was lying to her. She was very upset with him for the deception and wanted him to apologize. I think for the benefit of those that may be in similar situations, it would be nice to read how she handled her emotions after the breakup. She writes:

Pic of a girl drawing a picture of her broken heart

It has been a week, and I have had incessant text messages from him. I ignored the first few for 2 days, and then after that felt like I needed to get an explanation from him, although I do realize that this explanation could just be another fabrication of his imagination! The text messages have been remorseful, apologetic; he has asked me to meet him so he could fully explain. Some of them have been asking for forgiveness, and asking whether or not he had lost me forever. He also went through 2 days of being extremely possessive and asking questions about whether or not I had moved on; he also accused me of sleeping with other men. He then apologized and said he's finding it hard that I am going to love somebody more than him. He then said he wished I had become pregnant because that way he would never have to lose me (how selfish, I know!). I have made it clear that I am never going to see him again, and that any feelings I have remaining for him are for the man I imagined him to be rather than the man he actually turned out to be. It's difficult, but to be honest, I think that it has made it easier for me to move on, because the fact that he is remorseful and regretful has given me closure, coupled with this kind of sinister but admittedly nice feeling that he is not going to be happy without me, and that at least the love he had for me was genuine. I was beginning to worry the whole 6 years had been a show! I have suddenly stopped obsessing over him, but am worrying that if he stopped texting me I would start obsessing over him again. It's an exhausting feeling! I understand that time is the best healer, and that's the angle I am going for! Just having fun, enjoying myself, going out with friends and keeping myself busy with job hunting. It is getting much easier."