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Erica writes, "My husband is a great loving guy but he is gone a lot because he is in the military. I don't want to cheat but physically, emotionally, and mentally I am going crazy. There is a man at work that is very interesting to talk to, is not married, but he is always talking and flirting with me. I really enjoy his company and I know he would be there if I need a lover. What should I do? Go with my feelings or suffer every day?"
I know exactly how you feel. I have been in long distance relationships and some point you have to take care of the hormones. Masturbation only does so much.
I am generally supportive of cheating in such cases provided you do it with a guy who will be discreet and you won't get emotional with him. You definitely do not want to ruin your marriage with this wonderful man. I know that this guy that you talk about is your colleague so if he opens his mouth at work, it will be public news in no time. What I am trying to tell you is that you should think about these issues before having sex with him; if not, there are other ways to find a reliable, discreet, sex partner (married men are better because they also have a secret to hide).
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