if a person, specially a Christian lady,
goes out with another man, there are unresolved
issues inside her, so some hard work may help. Besides
praying and reading inspiring books some psychological
exercises may help.
- I will recommend that she open a
“gratitude diary” and twice a day she write at least
five things she is grateful for and two of those
should be related to her husband (yes even a bad
husband must have dozens of good things, otherwise,
she would have never
married him in the first
place). This makes people focus on the
of life and it is a Christian attitude.
- Write all the times that she had
suffered in her life, everything that she remembers
that caused her pain.
Go to her childhood and get it
out. This is a cleansing process that starts a
healing process. And there is an important part
here. She may need to
forgive some people and it may
be difficult, but it is a mandate from God, so
forgive even if it takes “fake it and fake it until
you make it” and move on. When ready, burn this
paper (be safe) as a symbol that the past is gone.
- Try to remember and write down
what her dreams were when she was younger, as young
as she can remember. Then analyze what has changed
and what has been neglected and why. Many times we
bury our dreams and unconsciously may blame others,
or ourselves, very often our
partner, for our
dreams. She has to see what can be rescued from
those dreams. For this, sometimes it is helpful to
photos, diaries, notebooks etc.
- Try to get out of herself
everyday and think of others.
Do some charity, do
not put all the focus on her problems. When we see
the problems of the world, we understand how little
our issues are.
- Try to focus on herself:
right, working out, etc. Let her body talk to her.
- Have some
fun activities with her
husband and family.
- I love
guided imagery. I started
to practice it during a time when I was trying to
get pregnant in my forties and I cannot believe how
effective it is to get to know more about ourselves
and to let out true self talk. Some of these
exercise may seem silly in the beginning and they
have to be done often (a couple of times a day), but
they only take 1 or 2 minutes of work. I am not
saying that they will definitely work but worth a try.