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Michelle
writes, "My BF of seven years told me that he would like
not to
communicate over the phone by calling or texting. He
said we should only contact each other when we're trying
to make arrangements to see each other. Says he is
swamped with a lot of school work. Now I might be
wrong but does what he is saying make sense? Is it
possible for someone who says they love you to not talk
to you for up to two weeks because of school work? Also
when we do speak, he is off and distant, giving one line
answers. Even if he were to tired to call, he
never replies my messages. Now what's that about??
I really love him and want to be understanding; I'm just
not sure whether I'm beginning to look stupid or maybe
he's hinting something? Perhaps, there could be someone
else? Please help me shed some light and wisdom to this
matter! How often should
people in relationships communicate over the phone?
Is there a point where you know the other person is
taking advantage of you?"
Based
on what you have described, something is definitely
fishy. I suspect that he is
seeing other girls or might even
have
a girlfriend but is
reluctant to
breakup with you.
When in love I expect people to have
communication without barriers. Generally it means
that the partner can call at any time during waking
hours and even at late night in case of emergency. Yes,
there will be moments that you might catch your partner
in a meeting or with a group of friends but I advise
couples to speak at least once a day for no reason
whatsoever. From what I understand that even busy people
like company CEOs, business owners, members of Congress,
and Harvard University students all find time to speak
to their loved ones. I cannot imagine he is so busy
studying that he cannot speak once a day to his
girlfriend of 7 years.
You have some investigation to do, especially in light
of his sounding distant.
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