Tara writes, "I
have this big time crush and this guy doesn't seem to be even
remotely interested in me. I feel so bad. I'm so in love with
him, an unrequited love. Every day I try not to think of him
but I can't help. I try to
but hardly any guy is interested in me. Some guys have
recently approached me but they are merely flirting with me
and I am just not good at
Please tell me
how to find a boyfriend. Help me."
Remember that you
cannot force someone to like you. Who knows he may like
someone else! It does not mean that he has "rejected" you (How
to deal with rejection), it simply means that he is not
interested in you. We all have a right to choose who we like.
Attraction is so much more complex. That is why, once you face
a situation like this, the best thing is to move on to others
rather than obsess over that one person. But what if you
can't, as you say. Have you ever approached him and let him
know how you feel? For all we know, he may have no clue
how you feel. So go ahead and do not worry too much
about the consequences. Remember
rejection is part of finding love.
that have approached you, well, that means that you are
attractive and interest them. The reason they have
backed off is that when you did not respond to their
advances they assumed that you were not interested in
How to get over a crush)
Flirting is not
rocket science. Sometimes all it takes to
flirt is to show enough interest in the other person (How
to approach men?) and listen genuinely.
helps too. (Related: