Is it OK for me to date a man that is
like my son?
Why not?
Summary: If age is just a
number and the compatibility of a couple decides the
level of happiness, a person can date anyone of any age.
Marianne
writes, "I have been
married
twice to younger men - most successfully for many
years to a man
16 years
younger than me - and it was good in many ways,
though we
divorced due to a variety of problems (not age
related). We are still
friends and very fond of one another and keep
contact. I was 35 and he was 19 when we first got
together. We had one child. I am now 70 (people usually
estimate my age in the 50s) and recently was engaged to
a 56 year old but I broke it off - not age related
again. Now I am back in the field again and
young men (mainly
online but not entirely) are coming out of the
woodwork! My age is displayed beside my picture. A 30
year old in town wanted a
sexual
relationship - said the
age didn't matter - I was pretty. Told him I am not
into that. A 27 year old in town accepted that I wasn't
doing
casual relationships and still wants to connect. In
his words 'your
age doesn't matter - you are very attractive and we
get along well.' Now a 45 year old who lives some
distance away wants to meet me - think this is more than
casual. I was really surprised by all this attention -
not to speak of the several
younger men at work who are "noticing" me and
flirting. I don't know what to make of it and
whether - for example regarding the 45 year old - with
whom I think I have some things in common - anything
long-term could work. My family is very
long lived
and many of our
women look much younger than they are. We are
fit and
healthy overall - still
look good in a bathing suit. My doctor agrees I am
not biologically 70. I am taken aback by all this
attention though enjoying it. I had sequestered myself
for years due to personal tragedy (my youngest son was
killed), but last year decided to live again - and wow!
What do you suggest?"
My suggestion would be to at least explore the
relationship with a younger man at this stage but
with a word of caution. Make sure that these men are not
crooks or criminals. There are a lot of people with very
evil minds who consider women in your age bracket as
easy targets for crimes.
So there is no harm in meeting him and getting to know
him better. Who knows he might be genuinely interested
in you.
