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Phil, a
college student, writes, "There is a girl in my
class that I want to get a chance to know or
date. I
want to give her my email address. Next Tuesday is my
last day in my class in college. It is the final exam.
My
fear is not rejection, but if I
date her
(since I think she likes me) that I am
committed to maybe marry her. Sounds silly? What is
your input?"
The
idea of
dating is to get to know someone better with the
goal of eventually having a
romantic
relationship. I think people have very different
ideas of dating and what the outcome is and that is
why it is for a couple to decide what they want. If they
are not on the same page then they should
stop the relationship at some point.
So at this point, go with an open mind
to get to know her as a person and see where things end
up. Be
truthful about your goals so that there are no
hurt feelings. If you are
looking for a marriage partner eventually tell her
so but if you want just
casual dating let her know and most likely you will
get some direction about her thought process. Then you
can decide what to do and
what type of relationship you can have. For example,
you can still be her
friend if you are looking for marriage and she is
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