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Margaret
writes, "I think my problem is I don’t know how to ask a
guy about the
relationship status because I’m
too shy. At one time he asked me, 'So what are we?”
and I just did not know what to say because I was so
nervous and shocked. I answered, 'We are
friends, right?' He stared laughing and asked, 'Do
friends kiss each other or
have sex
with each other?' I didn’t know what to say because I
was nervous. I laughed and I gave him a hug and a
kiss
and then he left on a
mission in Iraq for one year. It’s
going to be a year already and he keeps talking to me
through email. He is returning in a month. Do you think
that his non-stop communication should be a hint that he
still likes me?"
It
appears to me that he considers you something
more than
a friend and the fact that he writes regularly to
you means that he wants to
resume the
relationship with you. It does not mean that he
loves you and you will live happily forever with him --
the separation of one year and the
stress of being
in a war zone will definitely make things harder for
both of you when he does return. However, if you like
him, give your best to him and see what happens.
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Based on what you tell me it appears that while you guys
were
sexually active you really did not have a chance to
get to know each other well as individuals. The
electronic communication is definitely helping but as
you two get together you will need to spend more time
with each other and
define your relationship better. |
It is a bad idea to discuss these
things by email; it is better to talk about your future
as a couple after he comes back. If you and him both are
passionate about each other it maybe a good idea to
start meeting each other's families and take the
relationship to the next level. On the other hand
if all he does is
ask you
for sex and avoids talking about the future, you
have some thinking to do do. |
