How to end a casual relationship?

Be sensitive, but firm

Stella started to date a man six months ago but he would never commit to a long-term relationship. She continued to pursue him and gave him every thing that he wanted hoping that by showing how good she was in bed she would be able to become his girlfriend. It didn't work. The guy continued to enjoy what he was getting but never called her a girlfriend. Now she wants to take a decision. She asks, "I am confused as to how to proceed to have us stop the physical intimacy till he is my boyfriend. We have gone through this before and each time he has had good excuses and lies but I am so over him. How should I tell him." The best way to do this is to be polite. I don't like anger and accusations in such situation. Tell him that you value his friendship but would like to be just friends (I think he will understand that it is just a polite way to tell him to get lost) since it is obvious that you both are not a couple. In other words, you can hang out occasionally but casual sex is not acceptable. Any guy will get it. He might come up with excuses and even lies but tell him that you really do not expect him to defend himself. You have made a decision and want to stick to it. But promise me one thing. Do not yield to the temptation or his pleas. Unless you mean it, do not say NO. But if you are serious about it, then no matter how much you want him, do not do anything romantic. It will not reflect good on your credibility. He definitely must have a low opinion of you because of your relentless and desperate pursuit. Do not make it worse.

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