"I am confused as to how to proceed to have us stop the
physical intimacy till he is my boyfriend. We have gone
through this before and each time he has had good excuses
and lies but I am so over him. How should I tell him."
way to do this is to be polite. I don't like
accusations in such situation. Tell him that you
friendship but would like to be
just friends (I think he will understand that it is just a
polite way to tell him to get lost) since it is obvious that
you both are not a couple. In other
words, you can hang out occasionally but
casual sex is not acceptable. Any guy will get it.
come up with excuses and even lies but tell him that you
really do not expect him to defend himself. You have made a
decision and want to stick to it.
promise me one thing. Do not yield to the temptation or his
pleas. Unless you mean it, do not say NO. But if you are
serious about it, then no matter how much you want him, do
not do anything romantic. It will not reflect good on your
credibility. He definitely must have a low opinion of you
because of your relentless and desperate pursuit. Do not
make it worse.