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Megan
writes, "I
broke up with my boyfriend but it has
not been easy for me to move on. Since we are part
of the same social groups, we are bound to meet each
other on many occasions. He now has a new girlfriend and
he is not shy to show her off to me but I still hope
that he will realize one day what an
awesome
girl I am and
will come back to me. The other day we were together
at a
party and we started
flirting again; I can't help it! Then I told him I
was
going on a date with a guy that I used to
see in college (I really did
have a date) but I fabricated a lie that I was going
to let this
man be my first and
lose my virginity to him (while we were together for
a while we
never
made love and
I am still a virgin). You should have seen my ex's
face, he looked disgusted and wanted to know his name. I
think he even stalked him on
Facebook.
Since the date, he hasn't contacted me to find out if I
really did
sleep with him or not. What should I do? Continue
with the lie if he asks me and say I did (to see his
reaction) or tell him the truth?"
Flirting with an ex is a mistake
I am disappointed with your behavior a
lot. I think you now realize that this
relationship is over. What part of that you don't
understand? He is already
dating other girls, and if he is
flirting
with you or
being nice to you or showing
jealousy, it may simply be that he feels pity for
you. And the reason
he has not called is simple: he does not care about
you because if he did, he would have never
left
you.
It was definitely not right for you to
flirt with him. You MUST control your behavior,
otherwise, you will not be
successful
in your efforts to move on. I mean will you stop
only after he gives you his
wedding invitation with someone else.
Sharing intimate details of a new
relationship with an ex is no no
And regarding this new date, honestly, there is no
reason for you to even mention this to anyone and
absolutely no reason to share intimate details. That
would be a
violation of your trust with the new man. If this
date went well or not and what happened during that
time, you should keep the details to yourself; it helps
no one if you keep sharing those details with your ex. |
