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Denise
writes, "My boyfriend wants me to learn
how to have sex. He says that I am boring because I
wont do anything to
please him in bed but seriously I don't know what to
do. Can you help me please?"
I
like to believe that sex is something we all have to
learn and then get better at. The sad reality is that no
one really teaches us
how to have sex and it is only by trial and error
that we pick it up. So I am glad that you have accepted
that you want to learn it, but I do not like the
attitude of your
boyfriend somehow putting you down as if it were
only your problem. In my opinion,
sex is
something that a couple discovers together. For
instance, I may love a particular position and my wife
might like it too but if I get divorced and
date another woman, there is no guarantee that she
will love
the same type of sex. I will need to start all over
again. Therefore, even if you were to
learn how to have sex according to his preferences,
it doesn't mean that your
boyfriend will be happy and satisfied.
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That is why the first thing
you need to do is to ask him why he considers
you boring. Are their acts that he wants you to
do and you don't know or do not want to? I know
many women have problems with, say,
oral or
rear entry sex, or whatever else
that a man wants. Generally, I tell women to do
what they are comfortable with. After all, sex
is supposed to be a pleasurable activity. |
Having said that, I also suggest
open-mindedness. For instance, many women absolutely
refuse to even try certain acts because of all the
myths. When I advise them to at least try; a few do not
change their opinion or hate it even more now that they
have first-hand experience, but some actually find that
it was not bad at all and if it was what was needed to
make their man happy, they are willing to do it. Some
find a new position or act the best ever and that makes
both partners enormously happy.
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