Samantha
writes, "I have been
married for 12 years. The first 6 years of the
marriage was wonderful, there was nothing that my
husband
wouldn't do for me. Then my parents got sick and my
focus was on them and it seems to me that he
hooked up with his ex. Once I found out about it I
tried to do everything I could do to
get
my husband to focus on me instead of the past, but 6
years later he is still dealing with this woman and
confusion prevails in our home. I
love him with all of my heart, but I have been
hurt time and time again. I have been disrespected
in front of this woman and in arguments with her and her
children all because of my husband and I have begged him
to
focus on our marriage. He tells me that he does not
deal with her anymore and then I will find that she is
calling or he is calling and text messaging her. We have
4 children and I try to focus on them, but there is only
so much I can take. I am really confused and I would
like to know if you can give me any advice."
Sad
as it is, but your
marriage is probably over with this man. If he has
been
messing around with an ex for 6 years, there are
serious
problems in the
marriage. Based on the efforts that you have already
made to
wean him off his ex, it is clear that you don't have
much else to do. Some
men never get over
their ex girlfriends.
Now it is still not a bad idea to discuss for the final
time with him if you can
save your marriage. But if you are in a financial
situation to do so, it is
time to
consider divorce. If not, wait till you are ready
financially to move on (saving
over the next few years with an organized plan is a
great idea)
without him and
get a life of your own without being shamed everyday
by a
husband who has a lover. |
