If you ever scan the
personal ads put by
married women and
men, you will see that almost all of these individuals do not want to end their marriages. They just want
to get what is missing in their life. While it is hard to justify this behavior, there is now a scientific explanation for
why married people
cheat.
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 Research published by Dr. Enzo Emanuele of the University of Pavia concludes that there is a biochemical reason for losing interest in your lover after just 12 months.
That is why
Christina Aguilera Jordan Bratman work so hard at
their marriage. In the past, everyone thought that it took a few years before the passion died but this research shows that we may get tired of our partner in just one year. The chemical is a protein called Nerve Growth Factor. This is the substance that makes us so excited about the person we love and are attracted to. We always want to be with this person when this chemical is active, we
want to touch all the
time, make passionate love all
night, and just do not do anything else. But this research finds that as this chemical stops being produced by the body, the intensity wears off though it does not mean that the love reduces or disappears.
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So how to keep the sparks flying forever?
Take a break, from each other, that is. My wife and I take about two weeks off each year around our anniversary. We do our own little things, be it a
business trip, or just visiting our families. We also try to change something about ourselves. Let me tell you what I have done. Cut my hair really short, died it a different color, lost 10 pounds, had a
style
makeover, etc. Similarly, she has had some cosmetic surgery procedures done, played with her hair style/color, bought totally new clothes (that she had never used before), and learned new skills like cooking,
bellydancing, salsa, etc. So you have a lot of choices. And then when we met, we literally started like a new couple each year. Might sound funny and difficult to do, but trust me, it can work for anyone. All you need to do is to have an open mind and just do it.
Keep the distance from your partner. A lot of us believe that if we are always together and doing the same things, we are a great couple. I think so too to some extent but spending too much time together can
also become a recipe for disaster. Have a life apart from that with your partner. Develop your own hobbies. Do things alone or with your own friends and family members in which your partner is not involved. That way you will have so much to tell and ask your partner.Keep changing. If your partner always sees something new in you, he or she will always be intrigued and interested.
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