 Casey
writes, "I'm
in a new
relationship that has been
getting serious and we both are very much
in love! My only problem is
getting over my shyness to
make love, but I have reasons why it is so hard for
me. I don't want to let this ruin my relationship now
though. I went through 5 years of a very
abusive relationship; I was
forced to just have sex. Well, now I'm
in love with a wonderful guy now and I want to give
him back what he gives me. I love him so much and I just
want to
make love with him without being afraid of doing so.
He would never
hurt
me or put me through the problems I had before so what
do I do?"Making love to
someone you love is simply the final step in a
relationship
I think one way to think about is that did you feel the
same way about going with him to the
mall or a
park or a
restaurant? You just
got ready, went, and had a great time. Try to think
of
making love along those lines. I agree it is
different but you have to agree with me that it is also
a natural progression the way you went from talking to
holding hands to hugging to
kissing
to
making out. So the less you think about it the
easier it is going to be. Since he is such a
good man, just relax, surrender to him, and it will
be alright. |
