| Arthur
wrote to me, “I would say when I look back it all
started around 15 years of age. I found myself enjoying
women with larger breasts because I felt is was
sexier and more fulfilling. I found myself only
looking at woman in public who had the qualities I
liked. Now these women could be average in looks and
sometimes below average, it didn't seem to matter. I
felt like I was in a circle of lust or desire that I
couldn't get away from.
My first wife was a size A and my second
wife is a C but to me that was not good enough and I
felt that my desire for either was not as strong as for
a
woman of larger breasts; this has effected me in
relations with both. First one
ended in divorce although other issues were at hand.
I don't know why I really place such a need for
size;
it is a puzzle to me.”
Then his current
extramarital lover Tina wrote to me as well. “Arthur
has told me that he has become angry realizing he was
married and stuck with a woman that was not
large breasted. He has said that with his first and
second wives he
wanted sex
too much from them -- more than they cared for. He
felt that if they didn’t
want to
have sex with him when he wanted to that they didn't
love him. Before he married his second wife, he had
explained that
inadequate sex had become a problem with the first
marriage. She assured him that she was
interested
in sex but later after becoming married told him
that she had said that to him because she didn't want to
lose him. He has since then had a couple of
sexual encounters with
large
breasted women. He says he feels much more safe and
secure but also says that the excitement goes away after
a couple of times - that there is only so much you can
do with them. Both of these women didn't seem to be
actively participating in the experience. He rates these
encounters very poorly and if he had the opportunity to
go back in time, he may have avoided them. He has
commented that, if you have no feeling for the person,
what is the point. However, he continues to be
infatuated when he sees
really
breasty women and has said he will give up
great legs, bottom, etc., etc., and will overlook a
lot just
for breasts and the women are usually
overweight, out of shape and not pretty.
To complicate or
possibly to clarify matters even more, he really appears
to be attracted to just about anything under about 200
pounds that has legs with
feet
on one end even if they are
small
chested. He seems to find something
attractive about most women. He seems to be girl
crazy. I think I may have an idea of what his problem
is and what he needs. I am interested in what are your
observations, suggestions, etc.
As Arthur is also interested in pleasing
God and
making his marriage work, he struggles with issues.
He appears to have almost separate worlds that he lives
in, each world fulfilling some separate need. He has
become deceitful in order to cover up his actions,
probably in part because he fears
failing his marriage. He has apparently only
been with a small number of women in a physical/
sexual sense, two of which he married. He has said
that nothing can ever be good enough referring to the
idea that he likes a
variety in
women and that no one woman has it all. He seems to
be quite an
insecure
man in himself. He appears to have
AADD and feels unintelligent much of the time, which
bothers him. He is not a chivalrous man but since I have
brought this to his attention, he is making efforts in
this regard. He seeks acceptance from women and thought
of himself as being
flirtatious and has been making efforts to not look
at women in this manner.” |
